As children, most of us have been taught the importance of manners. We were asked "What do you say?" when we wanted something and the appropriate response was "Please" or "Thank you" once we received it. For me, manners are more than just words - they make up a part of my identity and essence.
During my relationship, manners played a crucial role. My partner demanded that I use them by asking "Is that how you're going to ask?" Although it was often unnecessary because I had already used my manners. Manners were a powerful way of showing my submission to him. Whenever I wanted to ask for something, I would say, "May I please ask you something?" This phrase was heard many times a day, and his answer was always the same - "Yes, beautiful, always." I never used it as a default or blanket permission. I always ask because manners are powerful.
So why are manners powerful? The answer is simple - they show respect, reverence, and appreciation. They profoundly demonstrate all of these qualities. They gave my partner power and showed him I appreciated everything he did for me. Manners cost nothing but can take you far in life.