Recently I was having a conversation about how many people on both sides of the slash sometimes do not understand the dangers of this lifestyle.
The conversation that prompted this discussion was here online between a D-type and their submissive. So I want to start by paraphrasing the conversation.
The dominant had played the fun game of keeping their submissive aroused throughout the day which caused the submissive to have a case of chronically wet panties for hours on end. I do understand the fun of teasing a partner throughout their day and having them in a state of arousal, which can lead to amazing things when the person returns home or when they meet for a date later in the evening. I think that is all well and good but in this case, what happened caused me to have a facepalming moment.
The d-type was very successful with their intentions of keeping the s-type turned on continuously throughout the day but the problem, for me, happened when the submissive repeatedly asked for permission to change their ‘soaked’ panties. The d-type out and out refused and said something the effect of, you made them this way, you deal with it. The problem is that this has been ongoing for hours and what Dudley is ignorant of or simply does not care about is what can happen to lady parts if they are in contact with damp clothing for extended periods, just in case you did not know, that wonderful thing is yeast infections (and possibly a urinary tract infection to boot).
As far as dangers to life and limb, a yeast infection is a small fry compared to what can go wrong with lifestyle and everyone needs to understand that some acts of these can lead to permanent harm and/or death if done improperly. The point is that no matter what your role, the side of the slash, or if someone just enjoys some kinky fuckery is that the people involved in them must understand the risks and dangers associated with it. Even something so simple as keeping a partner turned on can lead to health issues. I believe a dominant must invest the time to learn about what side effects can happen and this is especially true for men since let’s face it, most guys (NOT ALL) do not bother to learn much about lady parts other than the penis goes here, periods happen, nor do they care to grasp the hygiene practices that keep things working properly.
I understand that this example is pretty tame compared to the horrific stories that happened when things like breathplay go haywire but, it illustrates the need for a couple of things. First, both D and s types must understand and learn how even the simplest forms of play can impact their partner’s well-being and secondly, even though a person is submissive, there are times when they need to stand up and explain their dominant why they are requesting a deviation from the dominant’s directive. I feel that in this case the submissive should have at some point told their dominant, “Hey, I must change my panties because you do not want your princess parts to have a yeast infection. ” It is possible the dominant was clueless that this could happen and this is when the d and s types need to work as a team to teach each other the things the other may not know or comprehend. Additionally, if a d-type were still declined allow a change of unmentionables for health reasons, truly what do you think would happen if this submissive safe-worded during a scene? Once again for me, this is a red flag and I hope it is for others too. Please remember that even the simplest acts of play can pose dangers, it is imperative to understand them and work to mitigate the risks involved because a kink today can negatively impact your tomorrow.
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