Firecracker(sub female){Collared}

Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

I'm a owned and collared. The journey I have been on with Daddy is amazing...and only gets better! This is my daily entries of what is going on in my head and stories of all the things I’m learning with Daddy!

Topping from the Bottom

4 years ago. April 15, 2021 at 2:11 AM

Topping From the Bottom - When a bottom tries to control a scene even though it was agreed that the top would be in charge.

Someone please explain this to me. I need an explanation that my brain will understand. I know that im still learning... but I can't wrap my head around this one. And also the why?

Please someone...

Bunnie - Trust and vulnerability.

To be able to let go in a scene and allow someone else to have all of the control, requires a lot of trust and vulnerability.
If the bottom is Topping, there is either not enough trust built between the Top and bottom, or the bottom is not in a place yet where they’re comfortable to be vulnerable enough to let go.

Oftentimes I believe it’s a combination of both, but not necessarily. And in saying this it’s not an indicator that either person are doing anything “wrong”... just more so (in my view) that they’ve got a bit more work to do both as individuals, and together.

4 years ago

Bunnie - Also, ego. Having an idea of how a scene “should” look... or what is “wanted” or “preferred.” There is a fine line that many get stuck in, believing that communication needs to involve expectation.
Expectation is the killer of surrender.

4 years ago

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Firecracker​(sub female)​{Collared}

Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

Topping from the Bottom

Firecracker(sub female){Collared}