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dollMaker​(dom male) - I would not recommend handcuffs, even genuine police issue ones, as the thin edge can dig into skin, with nerve and blood circulation issues being possible. Wide Leather cuffs with or without a padded inside surface are more suitable, will be comfortable and should not cause circulation issues. Quick release hardware is safer than non quick release hardware. While it is true some suitable items can be found on Ebay and from China, much is poor quality and non safe materials, particulaly with internal toys used. Regarding floggers and whips I have yet to see anything good come out of China. Regarding whips quality costs money and local specialist whip craftspeople are best. There are many great whip makers in America, and elsewhere.

knicks33 - I can agree with much you say. . . however, there are plenty of options including American made whips on EBAY . . . and again at prices better then elsewhere.. . . I just did a search for whips 1,009 listings, for floggers 4,060. . . btw. . . a folder paper towel about the wrist held in place with clear packing tape. . . solves any bruising from metal cuffs.

dollMaker​(dom male) - its not a question of bruising, though that is possible and a paper towel wrapped round a metal cuff does not solve the problem as the edge will still dig in and possibly cause nerve damage and circulation issues. Arms behind back, or in front but lying on top of these, the extra pressure/weight will cause the metal to dig deep. Leather cuffs are the safer way to do this type of restraint bondage.

I have thrown some of these cheap whips, and they do not perform like specialist makers items. I have waisted money in my early days buying what looked like bargains to find they were no such thing. The Cage doesnt allow commercial mentions, so I cant mention the makers I have personal experience with, but I own whips from some of the legendary makers and newer scene craftspeople and these outperform cheaper items by a huge margin. Even use of kangaroo leather does not guarantee a quality whip.

I am mainly into dollification these days but my early bdsm exploration was in impact play, with floggers, whips and while I agree that some kink items are overpriced, possibly rip off priced, there are some areas where quality costs and for good reasons.

Safety first always and cheap items, poorly made, with poor materials increase the safety risks in my direct experience and observation never mind being poor value as they dont last.

knicks33 - You don't wrap the paper towel about the cuffs. . . it is wrapped securely about the wrist and works very nicely. . .

sweet november​(sub female) - First time I heard anyone not recommend handcuffs. But I'm sure both parties involved, especially the handcuffee would say something if it did all that much damage.

I don't think a Dom would want to ever intentionally cause damage... ..

As far as China, well, look on almost everything in a store "made from China"

Jeesh...if a toy ordered comes in the mail and it looks poorly made im sure it will be thrown away.

Common sense.

dollMaker​(dom male) - Its common good practice regarding safety to not recommend handcuffs for the fact they can cause damage in many kink situations and loosing a key sucks big time. Most kink educators will recommend leather cuffs as the safer option. Sure cuffs get used in photo shoots, but for day to day kink they carry major risks. I must say I was horrified regarding the ops suggestion of wrapping the sub/bottoms wrist in paper towels. If you have got away with it so far it is by pure luck and nothing more.

sweet november​(sub female) - Oh jeez, I'm sure the OP is not an idiot. And uses more than just the standard police cuffs. And didn't keep them on long.

I'm also sure the op has more in his hat so to say.


You are very dramatic "horrified" ....lol.

And I think having more than one set of keys would be wise for anything requiring a key....
And i don't need to go to a BDSM class to know that. I'd insist on it.

dollMaker​(dom male) - Talk to any long experienced kink educator, people who write books, present workshops have a national or international reputation in kink, safety and bondage and they will all say the same thing, handcuffs are not a good idea. This isn't me saying this for the good of my health, or to troll the ops blog, but because my experience and their experiences inform them to not recommend handcuffs as being safe bondage tools. You can take those opinions and experience or not. Up to you.

knicks33 - dollmaker. . . you are funny. . . horrified??? since you've never done so. .. since you don'e use real handcuffs . . . your "horrified" response is without real knowledge. . .When used in a 10 year relationship in the manner I described. . . zero horrific results took place. . . but obviously to each his own. . .

dollMaker​(dom male) - No concerned about peoples safety. Safety first always.