4 years ago. August 16, 2020 at 8:42 PM
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What Do I Want From A Sub?
When a woman submits to a man, it's the most precious gift she can give. Herself. Unreservedly. The man has to respect and honor that gift above all else. Even if he respects nothing else in the world, he must respect the woman in his care. It's his sworn duty to protect, honor and cherish his submissive. To take care of her and provide a safe haven. Someone who would put his own needs above his woman's is no man.”― Maya Banks, Sweet Addiction
Sensisub{FS (poly)}
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Thank you for posting this! I never really thought about journaling but can see it’s benefits. Just the video I needed to watch at the perfect time 😊
4 years ago
slaveMikayla(sub female){MstrJ }
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The submissive journal is an invaluable tool. It is also one that the vast majority of the Dominant entities in my own life have instilled in me from day 1. Satindragon posted something on this topic not too far back and a bunch of us chimed in.
The submissive journal can take literally limitless forms and purposes. Some of the ones that have been useful in my walk (in addition to the say this presenter used it to "explain herself to herself" )
It has also been useful for me as a method of communication between my Dominant and myself.
How many times throughout the day do I think of something important to say, but I dont want to "bother" Him or Her? Better to write it down in a place they can access at their leisure. Then I'm not being a bother.
another way it has been useful as a tool for them to give me writing assignments to guide my thinking. They could also ask me to do a "check in' regarding a topic of note and I will journal everything about it ... it gives them access they need to know where I'm at to chart a path forward to where they want to go with me/us. Lastly, it has been a safe place to communicate my anxieties, issues, and worries. If something is just getting on my nerves, or not sitting right it can be HARD to know the right how and when to approach my Dominant about it. So I have a safe place to express those issues RESPECTFULLY and then they will read it when they desire and address it in the way they see fit. The rule there is that as long as what is communicated in my journal is done RESPECTFULLY I can't get in trouble for it. That is not carte blance to go on a 15 page rant and think that is a ok.... but within reason if I "question" my Dominant in that journal, I'm allowed. Doesnt mean they will alter their actions, OR address it with me.... but they need to know what is going on in my head, heart, and body.
~Faith is a big believer in the submissive journal.
The submissive journal can take literally limitless forms and purposes. Some of the ones that have been useful in my walk (in addition to the say this presenter used it to "explain herself to herself" )
It has also been useful for me as a method of communication between my Dominant and myself.
How many times throughout the day do I think of something important to say, but I dont want to "bother" Him or Her? Better to write it down in a place they can access at their leisure. Then I'm not being a bother.
another way it has been useful as a tool for them to give me writing assignments to guide my thinking. They could also ask me to do a "check in' regarding a topic of note and I will journal everything about it ... it gives them access they need to know where I'm at to chart a path forward to where they want to go with me/us. Lastly, it has been a safe place to communicate my anxieties, issues, and worries. If something is just getting on my nerves, or not sitting right it can be HARD to know the right how and when to approach my Dominant about it. So I have a safe place to express those issues RESPECTFULLY and then they will read it when they desire and address it in the way they see fit. The rule there is that as long as what is communicated in my journal is done RESPECTFULLY I can't get in trouble for it. That is not carte blance to go on a 15 page rant and think that is a ok.... but within reason if I "question" my Dominant in that journal, I'm allowed. Doesnt mean they will alter their actions, OR address it with me.... but they need to know what is going on in my head, heart, and body.
~Faith is a big believer in the submissive journal.
4 years ago
slaveMikayla(sub female){MstrJ }
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I've seen the VAST majority of her videos, but I'd not actually seen this one! Thank you, O!
I'm going to go ahead and answer the question she set forth:
"How did you know you had submissive desires?" In my blog I've spoken about my marriage situation when my ex husband came out as male submissive and asked me to Domme him, and how well that did NOT go.
However, there was a situation BEFORE that. *eyebrows raise*
Sooooooooooo before legal age (no this is not a horror story) I had a boy in my high school who used to like to sit beside me. I was very much the goody two shoes... and he was very very much not. He used to "torture" me in Math class. He would quietly regale me with stories of his exploits, ... see.... his mom and dad were in a very much not hidden D/s S/m relationship so ke kinda grew up knowing what was what. WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL He used to like to see how many shades of red he could make me turn (I pretended to hate it, but I so didnt). I think he was well aware, or at least suspected I didn't. He actually got up the nerve to ask me out and I shocked him by saying yes. He even looked at me dumbfounded and said 'I didnt expect you to say YES!"
Well... we went to a bookstore of all places, and he is the only man save Mr. Ted who ever ASKED if he could kiss me (at that time he was the only, Ted was still *counts* 4 years off. And I said yes. He grinned and again remarked He didnt expect me to say yes. I grinned and replied.... I didnt expect you to ASK.
It was a great and all too short lived relationship. He openly commented that he thought I had a switch streak a mile long (he taught me that term) and I argued with him even back then. Yeah yeah yeah he had REASONS for saying it.... but that is a different story. So I knew from then that this was something that sincerely and deeply interested me... and that bothered him. He ended up breaking up with me giving the following reason: "you are the only good and pure thing in my life. Truly. I dont want that tarnished and I dont want anything to do with tarnishing it. I do love you. I do want you... but I need to keep you in my mind exactly how you are."
I did reach out to him years later and we had a long sit down and talk about it. In that conversation in the car we talked about his life goals and it was in that conversation that he decided he might actually want to try to be a lawyer. He is now an incredibly successful lawyer and we reconnect on occasion.
I'm going to go ahead and answer the question she set forth:
"How did you know you had submissive desires?" In my blog I've spoken about my marriage situation when my ex husband came out as male submissive and asked me to Domme him, and how well that did NOT go.
However, there was a situation BEFORE that. *eyebrows raise*
Sooooooooooo before legal age (no this is not a horror story) I had a boy in my high school who used to like to sit beside me. I was very much the goody two shoes... and he was very very much not. He used to "torture" me in Math class. He would quietly regale me with stories of his exploits, ... see.... his mom and dad were in a very much not hidden D/s S/m relationship so ke kinda grew up knowing what was what. WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL He used to like to see how many shades of red he could make me turn (I pretended to hate it, but I so didnt). I think he was well aware, or at least suspected I didn't. He actually got up the nerve to ask me out and I shocked him by saying yes. He even looked at me dumbfounded and said 'I didnt expect you to say YES!"
Well... we went to a bookstore of all places, and he is the only man save Mr. Ted who ever ASKED if he could kiss me (at that time he was the only, Ted was still *counts* 4 years off. And I said yes. He grinned and again remarked He didnt expect me to say yes. I grinned and replied.... I didnt expect you to ASK.
It was a great and all too short lived relationship. He openly commented that he thought I had a switch streak a mile long (he taught me that term) and I argued with him even back then. Yeah yeah yeah he had REASONS for saying it.... but that is a different story. So I knew from then that this was something that sincerely and deeply interested me... and that bothered him. He ended up breaking up with me giving the following reason: "you are the only good and pure thing in my life. Truly. I dont want that tarnished and I dont want anything to do with tarnishing it. I do love you. I do want you... but I need to keep you in my mind exactly how you are."
I did reach out to him years later and we had a long sit down and talk about it. In that conversation in the car we talked about his life goals and it was in that conversation that he decided he might actually want to try to be a lawyer. He is now an incredibly successful lawyer and we reconnect on occasion.
4 years ago