1 week ago. Wed 09 Jan 2019 04:44:42 PM IST
Wish people would realize this.
You can be jealous without it having ANYTHING to do with trust.
I'm a rather jealous person. But it's not from having no trust in my love.
Yes, I get jealous if he looks at other people. But, it's not because I worry he's going to want them over me. It's because, umm, I'm right here! Give /me/ your attention!
Yes, I get jealous if he pays more attention to friends rather than me. Not because I think he's bored with me. But because I want /all/ his attention.
Yes, I would get jealous if we were to add another into our household and he played with them on his own or he gave them more attention than me. Not because I fear he'll like them more than me. But because, again, I want his attention.
I get jealous of people who have better jobs than me, because I want what they have.
I get jealous of people with children, because I so /badly/ want a baby right now.
I'm jealous of people who work at home, because I would love to be able to set my own schedule, and be able to help with the house instead of it always being slightly cluttered.
I'm jealous of the people in the theater who are better at acting/singing than me, because I wish I was good.
None of that has anything to do with trust.
But, I'm still a jealous person.
I don't /allow/ myself to give in to these issues - I fight my jealousy daily. I don't allow myself to steal 100% of Wolfy's attention because, let's face it, that's ridiculous. I want it, but I very much accept I can't have it. I don't let my mind bum me out if he does look elsewhere, because two seconds later, those same, gorgeous eyes are right back on me, and in the end, it doesn't matter (Even if it doesn't make sense to me, haha, because of my sexuality). I don't really care if others are better at things than I am, if they have better jobs/homes, or any of that. Because it means I have goals to work to.
I don't /act/ on those jealous emotions (Most days, I mean, I'm human haha). I get over it.
But, I'm still jealous.
And that DOES NOT MEAN I don't trust my husband. Jealousy =/= Lack of trust. More people need to understand that.
I fully agree that it's wrong to be a jealous person but either ignore it or just not do anything to better yourself. But you're not terrible because you're /jealous/. I feel like jealousy is something many people don't understand fully.
And, at the end of the day, my love still loves me regardless of my issues. So... Who are you to judge?