sweetd0428(sub female)

What am I really ?

In growing restless and am unsatisfied . I was a very sexual person with my exe. I did get him into some kink but he just wasn't into my needs like I was. So it was a softer submission.
Yet he was the best I've ever had. Our bodies fit perfectly. I left him just about 10 years ago and felt No one could compare to what he had and what we had everyday so I gave up sex for just about 10 years. It was not easy but I didn't want indulging sex and I don't like huge packages but I do prefer at least 7.5" -9.5" and vanilla sex is okay at times but really I enjoy being tied up and teased and had for hours.
Another thing is men seem to think all women are really into receiving oral sex. While I enjoy it, in all honesty it's never gotten me off. I'm more into fingers n toys. Men are the ones who extremely love oral sex on them and so they don't understand women can be different. Are different.
Well I ended my celibency 6 weeks ago and now I wish I hadn't because now I'm thinking of being filled n played with all day and night.
My dilemma is I don't know how much of a sub Im ready to be. I love nipple suction and breast roping and being cuffed up where I'm at the mercy of my partner. But I've never just met a Dom because I'm a woman who needs to feel chemistry and attraction to the person I'm about to become intimate with. I want to be handled roughly and used for hours but I can't just trust anyone. And there are limits.
Many are into anal sex and many seem to just want to shove it in. Well for me a small butt plug is uncomfortable. If I met the right person and they could be patient I'd probably with slow training and stretching agree to anal. But do I really want anal sex. ? This is an inner conflict within myself. I've fantasized for decades about it and masturbate to it. But in all honesty someone would have to fulfill my needs which require a lot of breast play and fingering and straight up entering me over and over. Foreplay is so important to me.
I also like to give and I like to tease my men too and sometimes tie them up while I lick and suck them all over.
I also don't want cyber sex or talk My mind is it's own cyber world.
My fantasies are so various....from wanting 2 men too dominate me but then there's that anal part......to having a man Just tie me up top and crotch tie me and apply the breast suction machine and then after the intense nipple suction machine while being stretched down below with my man's fingers and toys, ice and red hots. While having my wrist restrained and possibly even using a leg spreader.
What I'm getting is men wanting to just dominate me or make me a slave.
I know Im not into being a complete slave but habe had fantasies about my partner making me a slave for a whole weekend. Where I'm cuffed and naked and habe all kinds of things done to me as I'm powerless.
Is it really to much to ask for a partner in my everyday that says hello and we chat and then on my available weekends and a day or 2 a week have my partner be my caveman but understand while my body is his completely that there needs to be an understanding to limits and I'm not just a fuck doll ?
I'm in Michigan metro Detroit area and I don't know how to even find people like me. My last 3 partners I trained to do what I needed.
Ugh it's so complicated now
Size to me is important
Chemistry is important
Looks are important
Ownership is wanted in the sex department but not throughout our everyday.
I'm me. With particular needs and yes I will give my partner what he desires and more.
But am I truly a sub ? Our am I somewhere inbetween ?
I just wish There was an easy way to find out size, demeanor, and if a man can be what I need.

If you wish to find me it's simple
Debbie Romancheck

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SAY WHAT ! BRING MY OWN TOYS ?

5 years ago. November 21, 2018 at 7:57 AM

So I get excited I get an email that was very detailed and Great he lives in Metro Detroit Area! Then I checked this Doms profile it stated 15-20 yrs on/ off knowledge.

Now my profile is very specific to what I want and like. I'm considered a sub but I don't require training as I'm not looking to be degraded. Anyways I gave my text # out and we begin to talk.

I ask do you take your sub out ? Now my profile states specifically in looking for a partnership not lessons.

He responds no I'm on a fixed income maybe I could in a month...at this point my mind is already at No.

But I hate to be rude so I ask what he is into and he asks me. I mention that I'm very much into nipple suctioning machine

( stated in my profile) talking continues and then, I was just completely caught off guard when he said if we did meet for a lesson that I would need to bring all my toys and ropes and whatever else I have.

Seriously ?!? Wow just blew my mind !!!!

So I ask if you've been a Dom throughout all these years where are your toys ?

He didn't really answer but astounded me even further by stating he was sure he could scrounge out some HOUSEHOLD ITEMS to aid in my lesson

Ugh I don't need lessons !

I'm not looking for torture either !

I'm looking for pleasure with a partner who can at least own a few toys and take me out as a partner.

Really rope isn't even expensive and clothespins aren't really anything to me.

All's I could think of was banquet microwave meals and the scene with the whisk from the movie AN OFFICER AND A GENTLEMEN

I'm not a gold digger but I do expect to be treated out to a nice meal, cocktails every now and then, spending quality time together as we grow mind, body and soul.

I'm seriously still laughing over bring your own toys n rope !!!

PASS !

dollMaker(dom male) - I think it the right thing to bring your own toys if they are the type that after use on a person become fluid bonded to that person. Its important to keep in mind that some items once used on another person, particularly if its internal or could come in contact with blood that its very difficult, if not impossible, to 100% clean it. For example if a whip is used and the cracker/popper breaks skin and gets blood on it, its impossible to remove the blood. Also if if the material the toy is made from is porous its very difficult to get it 100% clean.

So toys that you enjoy, that would become fluid bonded to you after use I would suggest having and bringing your own to any club/party for anyone interested in playing with you, or you them. Think about it this way. If that person plays with numerous people you are more than likely going to have contact with their old body fluids on the toys they use, even if they clean them well. Do you really want others blood, vaginal, piss, semen fluid on your skin, or in you ? Now there are toys that can be cleaned fully, that are no longer fluid bonded after cleaning, but equally many types that can't be.

A conscientious dom will always clean their toys fully, put used toys in sealed bags, never mixing used with fresh unused. They will also, in my view, ask anyone at a party or club they haven't played with before do they have their own toys if its a type that might get fluid bonded. Any experienced dom should be able, if they are experienced use toy types they use day to day even if its not their own toy. An exception might be whips, where there are different weights and material behaviours that could be different to the whip they use day to day. In saying that it takes only a few minutes to change the cracker/ popper on a whip and that can be a new fresh one they have or one you bring with you. If you do carry your own crackers/poppers keep them in a sealed poly bags, one for used ones, one for fresh. I would also suggest putting toys in to their own bags to separate them, removing the cross contamination risk. No need to mix those that get blood on them, with those that get vaginal fluid etc on them, and from a common sense point of view why have to clean stuff not used because stuff used touched it.

If this person did not mention any of this in your communication then that is a red flag, and it sounds like they do not own their own equipment, and any dom active will, repeat will have their own equipment. If they don't you need to ask why, and you judge any further contact with them based on how sound and plausable their answers are.

5 years ago

sweetd0428(sub female) - We werent talking about clubs. This was 1 on 1 and I was very clear on my wants and needs and thatI was looking for a ltr with a dominating man in the bedroom. But outside expected to do things like vanilla couples do...dinner, plays, movies cuddling, etc

I'm also not into Masochism . more so rope tying, cuffing, etc

After 15-20 years a Dom should be very aware of what toys are cleanable and which are not. But to have nothing, Not even rope that's just not even right

Glass Dildos , nipple clamps , and so many other items are completely cleanable and non pourous.

No I definitely don't want a dildo used on me that's been used on others or butt plugs. But to expect me to bring everything and to a lesson I wasn't even interested in......Im still just smh

5 years ago

sweetd0428(sub female) - I agree with internal toys. But I'm not into Masochism so that was not a factor as far as whips n such. No making me bleed ....no cuts to my skin

But come on how much is rope !!! Or a set of nipple clamps !!! A butt plug is $9

Using household items, this is any better ????

As noted in a comment above a true Dom is experienced in cleansing his toys and massagers n things of that nature.

This Dom had not 1 item.

Besides me not looking for lessons which means it would be more to his benefit than mine. I'm looking for a partner not lessons.

And a partnership requires investment. And requires more than just lessons but going out and enjoying life.

You want me to wear something or get other things then it's fromyour wallet not mine !

5 years ago

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