Stay awhile and listen, today I want to talk about trust. This is the foundation of our lifestyle. The core principle everyone should model their relationships around. Trust, the easiest thing in the world to break and the hardest thing to obtain.
In any relationship but especially D/s relationships, trust is vital. A sub must be able to trust her Dom with her fears, safety, emotions, body, mind, and soul. A Dom must be able to trust his sub with the same things. The basic way to build trust is by keeping your word. Words are nothing more than wind at the right vibrations to show a picture. Words have little meaning unless actions back them up. Actions will show your sub your true intentions and emotions.
So, how do you deal with trust issues you might ask? Simple, watch someones actions and you will know their intent. Their are a section of males that will not like this next part but frankly, your part of the problem. If a male (They are not fit to be called Dom's, Alpha's, Daddy's or any variation of nor fit to have names) wants physical gratification but tells you he cares then he does not. Physical gratification is the last step of our relationships. Nudes and hook-ups are asked for up front. Now allow me to clarify, I am not saying explicit photos and physical gratification should not be sent/given. I am just saying that a true D/s relationship does not start with them. A first point of attack of any true Dom or Alpha is the mind. If you cannot intrigue your sub to have a conversation then you do not deserve her body or soul.
Now Kalten, we know this so why are you having to explain this? Simple, to many subs are falling for tricks that males have been playing. How do I know, simple really it was the same tricks I did when I was younger to keep a female around for sex. I know the word love is thrown around a lot by boys to get what they want or keep what they want till they find something else. Love should not be given or earned after you have seen a naked body. Love is earned by actions and love is shown to the world not kept a secret.
But Kalten, my Dom, Master, Alpha is different and to that I say, I hope so. Sadly, that is not the case for the Majority of the Males I find on these sites. I preach and practice that trust must be earned everyday not once. Actions speak loudly while words mean nothing. Deeds build trust or breaks its. Fun fact: saying your sorry and changing for a short period of time hurts the other person more than you will ever know.
This lifestyle creates such tight bonds between people which is beautiful. I do employ people to build trust and not shutdown. I want my fellow Dom's to step up and practice this daily. I want my submissive community to know the signs so they don't fall into dead end relationships. Take a leap and also know that roadblocks will happen. If the trust is there then you will be able to work through them together as a team. Trust can be broken and rebuilt stronger if both people are willing to work on it. This is the main lesson I want to teach people. Don't go out there thinking you can't trust anyone because of previous relationships. You are the only one in this world that can say whether deserves another shot. Just don't fall into the cycle of giving chances to people when their actions will continue to show you wrong.
I think I've rambled long enough and I know the people who read this blog are not the ones I am aiming for. I want my blog to spread across this website so please invite your friends to read. If you have any topics that you want to know my opinion on then please feel free to leave a comment. I want to start showing the newbie's and the broken that there are still decent people in our community. People who will help those lost souls and guide them safely as they explore their own personalities and kinks.
As always, stay safe and thank you for reading.
