I have heard many times the question, is a Dom a Dom without a sub and vise versa? Sometimes when I think of that question, it literally makes my head spin.
Short story:
Since identifying that I belong in this lifestyle, I haven't really been without a partner. My last D/s was for about 3 years and that's when I learned to identify as a switch. I was my Sir's sub for the first 2 years, then something inside me changed and so did our relationship. I embraced being his Domme for a year and learned so much about myself. We were a LDR the entire time, visiting each other a few times a year, but there were many times when felt very lonely since there wasn't actual physical presence a majority of the time. For myself, being online was having the rules of a relationship, without most of the bonuses; dinners together, cuddles on the couch, floggers, gags, crops, paddles, and so many more toys, feelings, and sensations. We did what we could to buy time to the next visit, but it was never soon enough.
To the point:
I haven't been without a partner for very long, but I can say with confidence that a Dom is still a Dom without a sub; a sub is still a sub without a Dom. We still have our needs. We still have desires and very much miss everything that makes us who we are. There are moments that a song will make me feel so empty inside. Look up George Michael, Father Figure. I have not had the pleasure of being with a Daddy Dom, but that song relates so well (so my Daddy Dom friend says), that I started crying. I am still a Domme that feels the loss of touching, caressing, and playing with my toy. Giving him my focus, love and attention. I am still a sub that longs for the love, discipline, security and so many more things that a Dom can provide for me and all the wonderful things I will give him in return. The hole in our hearts can only be filled by those who make us feel complete.
I can only hope that one day soon I can find another and we can fill each other's hearts and make us feel whole again.