During my married life, we toyed with chastity, a cheap plastic cage, that in all honesty was far too big for my average size, and was about as secure as my kids piggy bank. It was some light-hearted fun, her threatening to leave me locked and deny me for weeks or months - but she never really got into it, and after a while, we stopped playing that game altogether.
Fast forward 5 years or so, when I am single, and the availability, security and even price of chastity devices for men have changed so much.
I have purchased a few cheap knock-offs, and self-locked over the past 3 years or so, leaving keys at work or just making it difficult to get to them, even leaving them at my Mum's house on a bunch of other keys when I knew she was away for a fortnight. Whilst I found this somewhat enjoyable, it was never forced as I could always access the keys and release myself - even if I'd have to wait a week or two.
As I've gotten older, and my figure has become fuller (Ok I'm fat and struggling to keep my weight down) I found that the base rings of most devices were too tight around my balls. Even the 50mm hinged base rings were too tight for longer-term wear.
Then last month, two things happened. I started chatting to someone online, a dominant female, who loved chastity and the thought of controlling a guy's ability to orgasm. We chatted frequently, and it was wonderful, and she also found a site that made secure devices with a larger base ring. The chastity cage itself is quite harsh, and not for a first-timer, and with the prospect of an actual keyholder, I decided it was time to invest in a secure cage that could be worn for a long time.
I've ordered the cage, and it's due in the next week or two - I'll let you know how it all works out!!
Dave