Our D/s dynamic is 24/7. For some that might seem ridiculous or impossible, but for us it's actually biblical. The Lord calls His people to submit to one and other in love. My husband submits to my need for a dominant figure in my life by setting aside his selfish desires to protect and provide for me. I set aside my selfish desires to aide and serve him. There are days that I am sad, tired, or overwhelmed and I simply don't WANT to submit to, or be respectful towards, my husband. But then I remember that I have made a vow before God and my husband to continue to behave with obedient submission even amidst the trials and the same applies for him. There are moments when he is flying out of the door for work, rushing to beat traffic, his mind already shifting into "work mode," but then he sees me standing in the entryway frowning and he drops everything to give me three minutes of his undivided attention.
Why do I say these things? Because after 4 years of trial and error, I have learned this. Whatever you choose to do, Dom or sub, top or bottom, master or slave, do it in love. Not love as feelings, but love in action as outlined in 1 Corinthians. Patience, kindness, without envy or boastfulness, not proud, rude, self-seeking, or easily angered, and without keeping record of wrong. Willfully decide to submit yourself to the care of the other party you are choosing to take responsibility for. Be it the emotional care of a sub or the physical assistance to a Dom.
Do it in love.
-Jo
