So I got into a recent conversation with a friend because I mentioned how it feels great to be broken in BDSM. She was highly concerned but it came from a place of believing that brokenness and broken things are bad. But what if being broken is what is needed to shatter old insecurities, beliefs, and lies in order to build you back into the person you were destined to be.
Recently I have felt broken. From a combination of life circumstances and tasks prescribed in my dynamic. My core has been shaken and from that shaking has been shattered. Was this emotional yes. Was it and is it hard yes. But each and every day do I see the benefit....definitely.
That's the thing about broken things and about the tears and fears and emotions from being broken. To the outside world it looks bad. A vase breaks and we throw it away. People break down and we look away almost ashamed to be in the presence of the pain. But why? Why do we not embrace these moments or brokenness as times to be made truly whole. Why don't we look at the times we feel shattered as a time to be rebuilt. To begin a new journey. And to be made into the people we were always meant to be.
Being broken doesn't mean you have been hurt. It is not when someone degrades who you are. Truly being broken is when the image you see of yourself is shattered so you can step in to the true identity you are. Right now I am broken. I am the vase which has fallen to the ground. But I will not be thrown away. I will not run away. Instead I will enjoy the journey as piece by piece I am rebuilt into the true image of me.
