For as long as I can remember, I've held the belief that men hold doors open for women. The idea, to me, had nothing to do with feminism or equal rights. It was a matter of courtesy and respect shown to the fairer sex.
I'm raising 3 sons of my own. Since they became strong enough to hold a door, I've taught them to hold it open for women. Don't think I believe it is an entitlement. Each and every time a man holds a door open, I say, "Thank you. I appreciate gentlemen. " Their responses vary; a caveman like grunt; a smile; a nod; even the occasional "You're welcome."
These small, masculine gestures make me feel small, respected and valued for my contribution as a female member of society.
Car doors have been a bigger issue. Sir has instructed me that he will open my car door because I belong to him and he is responsible for taking care of me. It isn't so hard to remember when we are getting into the car but getting out is a struggle. For some reason, I think if I let him open the door for me to get out, I'll forget how to do it myself and end up stuck in the car waiting for someone to help me.
This whole explanation about doors really has nothing to do with doors.
Lately I've read several comments on the issue of men putting the toilet seat down for women. The comments, obviously made by men, are that woman should put the seat down themselves and continue with the ensuing chest thumping typically attributed to those made by the uncivilized gorilla type males.
To this I say, "Oh hell no!"
Let's look at it practically first, shall we?
When a women enters the bathroom, she immediately turns around to secure the door (something that doesn't concern men because they are okay with any/everyone seeing their glorious manhood) and we drop our pants, or flip up our skirt and sit. The primary focus of our attention is on modesty. Whereas men walk into the bathroom head on. They are directly facing the toilet and, dare I say, they are exclusively focused on their target. Men are in the optimum position and frame of mind to determine the status of the seat. Therefore, it is only logical that they ensure the comfort of the next user.
Women don't even turn around to flush! We reach back to flush the handle and don't stop to inspect our accomplishments for the visit.
Now let's look at it from a male/female perspective which easily translates to D/s in this case.
We s-types want to serve. We are the property of our D-types showing them deference and respect even to the point of using a capital D to identify them. We use Sir, Daddy, Master, His, Him and the One to demonstrate that we know our place in the dynamic. We are yours to use and please you with our submission. This creates a situation whereby the D-types assume a greater responsibility for the care of their s-types. D-types are responsible for our health, safety, security and sanity.
In my opinion, they are responsible for showing they cherish, treasure and accept all that we offer. This means putting down the damn seat. You should not want us falling the toilet unless it is some sort of intended water sport play.
So, if you value and respect your s-types for their subservience and deference, then treat them with courtesy and consideration. Open doors, put down the seat and treat her like a lady. No, treat her like YOUR lady