I sit here pondering my lifestyle the kind of HoH I am and the TIH I am hoping to find. I know there are alot of preconceived ideas on what a HoH and TIH should be like. But the truth is there is no cookie cutter answer, each of us has to work out our own dynamic and there are no right or wrong answers it's what ever works for the two people.
So what kind of HoH am I? To start with I believe in communication, respect, and loyalty. I believe a HoH should be a more loving type of Dom. I dont believe a HoH is suppose to be a dictator, a HoH even though they have final say should communicate with their TIH and make their decision on what's best for everyone involved. I believe that when the HoH needs to discipline the TIH it should be with the goal to teach a lesson not just to punish. I believe the HoH should establish rules so their are boundaries and not just make up rules. I dont believe discipline should ever be administered out of anger. I believe in traditional roles for the HoH and TIH. I also believe in aftercare
The TIH I am looking for should be respectful, loyal, and accepting of discipline. Her age isn't as important as her gift of submission.
I have tried vanilla relationships and found them unfulfilling and lacking in substance, I like the closeness this lifestyle brings to those who live this lifestyle.
As a Disciplinarian I believe in old school discipline that leaves the TIH with a sore bottom but not bleeding. I believe in administering over the knee bare bottom spanking. And always to be safe, same, and consensual.