So some of you may be like wait PM what’s going on and why is another Dom writing a blog post on your profile when you have a Sir. Well lovely kink community, Nyxian565 is my Sir. He also has decided to grace us with some words of wisdom and I have to say, he is very wise indeed. So without further ado, the debut of my Sirs Blog:
Importance of a private Journal
Many Doms have subs keep journals as a way to keep them and their sub close. It is an amazing tool that can really expand the dynamic. It provides couples a wonderful new form of communication. However in a Dom/sub dynamic it's not uncommon for the Dom to have complete unfettered access to the journal. This just isn't a good thing. There should be two journals. One shared and one private. This private journal is even more important than the shared one. It allows your subs to have a place of refuge. It allows them to log their frustrations and dreams. I encourage every sub to have friends that they can rely on to share their thoughts and talk about their dynamics, but some things are still private. Some things will always be off limits to friends. The private journal solves this. It allows the sub complete freedom to express themselves away from prying eyes. This can be to vent private frustrations. Problems that would make people look at your Dom differently. It can also be a place to write about dreams or desires not yet ready for your Dom's eyes. Things you may still be unsure of. I think it is absolutely necessary for good relationships and good mental health.
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I have to say He makes some very good points. And while we have a public journal I know He also encourages me to have a private one as well. And while I don’t like to keep things from Him as I feel like it’s hiding and lying I am going to start a private journal because He’s right. I need a space to work out my emotions and my frustrations with Him without having to worry about holding back for fear of how He will react to my words. Also having a private Journal will keep it so if I have anything planned for Him it can still be secret. 😏
As always if you have any other tips or advice leave a comment down below! And remember, Stay Safe. Have fun. And keep on kinking on!!
~ PM and Nyxian565 💋💋