It is the hardest thing to do and therefore takes the most time to adjust too. At least I have found this to be true with the ladies in my life. Try to understand I am not talking about the sexual end of my lifestyle I am talking about the day too, day.
It starts when she first realizes that her life would be much easier if she had someone else making the decisions especially the big ones. Now every woman I ever met who was not a domme has this little girl dream of the knight coming to her aid just in the nick of time. And this makes them vulnerable to the sharks but it also makes them open to the true Dom. As the true dom, you must recognize this and make sure that your potential sub understands your true intentions from the beginning, many doms just have a need to help they can't help themselves it comes with the RESPONSIBILITY gean as I call it. But she may not be a suitable sub for you no matter how hard they try, as such there are certain rules that a dom must follow 1) Never let her beauty and brains interfere with your mind 2) Never promise unless you can deliver and that includes those words that promise as I love you. 3) Never take her unless you intend on keeping her.
If you follow these rules for the first 6-8 months when you do decide to take her as your own there should be enough trust between you that you can tell her what you require from her this is what I call the long talk because remember this is not vanilla love. You are asking her to surrender control of her life to you. DOM's: you had better of thought long and hard about this before you have gotten to this point. I will cover the old school dom. in a future blog. once she consents to submit to you then your life will change forever from that point forward she has laid down her burden and expects you to pick it up and carry it, choose your words carefully because she will expect you to keep your word this is easy to say or write as the case may be but it can be much more difficult to do so be ready for the bumps in the road. I have found that women can be the most unforgiving of you. So I have found there must be a safe place or time to talk openly as time and trust increase this will be used less and less IF you listen and come to workable solutions to the problems that any relationship encounters and believe me being the dom will not cover all problems remember you have hopefully freely chosen to submit to this person but there are some things that he just can't solve they are your problems for you to deal with and solve.
