There is a difference between kink and the lifestyle, kink is what you do, lifestyle is who or what you are. these two taught me the difference they showed me that I was a Dom and to accept my pleasure as was my due and even more important my responsibility to those I care for. under my mentor I learned all the mechanics of the life and even learned the practice of whip and rope or restraint all the safety all the toys. but they taught me the meaning for them and that each tool held a meaning for them and when each was needed or witch to withhold. you see even when playing they were not my playthings they were my partners in the act of love. they showed me the true meaning to something my mentor tried to teach me. you see he gave me a gold coin he had made when he felt he had shown me every thing he could on one side was the word pleasure and the other side was the word pain he said there will be times when you flip the coin it will land on one side or the other but on rare times it will land in the up-right stand on edge at that time when that happens pleasure and pain are the same.
They proved to me that any sub has three levels of sub space, the first level can be and is the same as vanilla people achieve when they have sex. this what I call the oh god that's it fuck me stage.or the pleasure side of the coin. the second level can be reached when the nerves accept pain as a pleasure signal where with every slap or crack of the whip elicits a moan or shake until they reach orgasm this is the pain side of the coin. the third is the hardest to achieve and frankly the most dangerous for the sub because you can kill with a kiss at this point the sub's body can no longer tell pleasure from pain it feel the sting of the whip the same as a kiss to the cheek the hart is beating so fast and hard that that it skips beats and your sub is in one continual orgasm there are some warning signs before the danger point is reached incoherent speech, blindness you must stop at this point and let them calm down you can not touch them until they have. they thought me to bring them to this point regularly when there was time for them to relax the next day and be catered to because believe me it will take a long time to get back there wits and then care for you and your needs.
it was only after this that i researched and found that the pain and pleasure nerves are so closely bundled together that they will actually connect and transmit at the same time and this is what causes the brain to confuse its signal to the rest of the body.
so you know i had them hooked to a E.K.G. to make sure there was no damage done on a permanent level.