first let me say thank you to the lady Stacy and Mari for there previous post thank you ladies it will go a long way to explaining this rule and it is one of the more important ones. I was one of the more lucky of the Dom's in that I received my training at the hands of a master and even luckier to receive a sub trained by that master. As she likes to say "he took a backwoods barefoot farm girl and turned her in to a countess" she is as comfortable having a beer on the back deck as she is sipping wine at a box at the met.
Now let be honest a spanking is rarely a punishment in our lifestyle in most cases it is foreplay same for most pain inducing things not always but in many. So what does that leave us well first let us look at the definition of punishment=the imposition of a penalty for poor behavior in that light punishment can be almost any thing the hates doing and on the ranch there are many chores that fall under this cleaning the stables, washing the horses. fixing tack,and even putting down new straw. You get the general idea it very rarely involve any infliction of pain that is saved for the fun part of life.
Now lets look at the fun part of life limits are something that we impose on ourselves but the most important of these limit involve those that cause pain ether emotional or physical to others or ourselves for this reason there are universal limits the very first is the use of a child in any form that is one that can be agreed to by most and the ones that do not agree well a ranch always has room for a flower garden and that is the best use for those individuals they at least can make the world a more scenic environment to live in. The second universal is just as simple and carries the same penalty never cause pain to woman who has not ask for it and detailed what kind of pain. now with that said you can assume that all other limits can be addressed as wanted. But others should be addressed first if you have read the previous blog by Mari and Stacy you will see that those that influence how a sub views them self is counter productive to full enjoyment by the sub and their Dom. And this can and does take a lot of work to change. Here is something to remember and understand the way a sub look's at herself is influenced by others the biggest of these and in Jane's opinion is the fashion industry, by them to be considered beautiful you must fit into certain perimeters but as she said the thing to remember is that those were set by gay men and it is true that at best they dislike a woman's body and at worst hate it outright according to her the best thing to happen to her industry was female designers that at least take into account that women have curves in places that men don't. But my preference is the way sir James says "there is an old saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and he said this is the mistake most make they make the assumption that their opinion matters to all instead of accepting the opinion of there Dom as truth they will say this body is now yours but they hold to the opinion that what they see is important or true these notions must be eliminated before they can completely enjoy all the signals that are being sent to the brain this takes time but the Dom and sub must work on this for them to get maximum enjoyment from that body.
