I just asked him what I thought was a simple question. He said the answer you seek is in the blogs you read some need more then others. The question why can some Dom's handle more then one sub and others can't.
Now that I really looked I can see what he meant. Some really have more then one question to answer many come to look at this lifestyle thinking that it will be the answer they seek. and it is for many, but not all. Many do not take into account their needs they just want an easy fix or help in getting their life on track and some looking for what amounts to a sugar daddy or mommy. I am not going to address the last one no judgement they have their place.
The sub has the more complicated path then the Dom/Domma they already have have it together for the most part. But we subs must find a path that works for us many at least for females there is a history of abuse either mental, physicals, or sexual some times all three and we must come to terms with this ourselves before we really look for a Dom or Domma to care for us sound easy yes BUT it is the hardest thing we have ever dealt with in our lives. And sometimes no matter how hard we try we never get over some traumas but we can and must calm it down and try to not let it get to you or your partner on life's road this is what we must learn the TRIGGERS and this is something at least in the beginning the dominate partner must be told about. Don't be ashamed of them instead rejoice in them it means we are more normal then many who don't recognize that they have them it means that we have looked into the abyss and have turned away and said no you will not take me today. I am still I, but don't expect your dominate to solve these they are not theirs to deal with but they will help you down the road to you dealing with them. Their job once in a formal bond is to help you and stand beside and at times protect you. Sir James helped us with many of our triggers but sadly we four still have many and sir Tim is there to help us overcome them when the demon raises its head it sees not just us but him standing there facing it down. And many times with his magic sward of love goes after it😊 as in my previous blog.
Jane had many and sir James loved her enough to take them on even the ones that she did not know she had over the 20 something years they had together he helped her deal with them to the point that she could decide if she was going to react to the pull of that trigger or not. And I will leave you with an Example of what how sir James helped me deal with one of my triggers.
I am a gangbang quean and now happy to be. when I was 14 I was involved with what was mu first orgy I enjoyed it a lot but after I was ashamed of myself but could not seem to stop and every time after I felt the shame after, Sir James helped me to accept that for me they where just part of my sexual turn-ons' and to not view them as something to be ashamed of but to be proud of I had for me fulfilled my myself and many others both male and female so that now I can say I am an ethical slut and lets be honest most ladies somewhere in the back of there minds. There is the fantasy of more then one I have found that while it is real good one on two or four now is so much better but the urge is still with me and probably always will be. Sir Tim tells me its alright with him.
Now back to the original point of this blog. In our case we four have complementary and some demons fight each other so Sir Tim says having the four of us is easier then having just one (did I mention how good he is) and the time he spends on each of us well it amazes me any way.