B.D.S.M. and Poly are really two different lifestyles that complement each other nicely. But are very different in how they start. First let us look at Poly life and how it starts. When two people come to love each other they can come to a point where they feel something is missing and they decide together to add another in the mix. In my own case I have been with women on many occasions as well as men being bisexual and coming to understand myself it was only natural for me to seek out someone of each sex on a permanent arrangement my partner Jill and I fell for each other quickly and closely and are very happy but we both recognized that we need a more Dominant partner to really complete us and luckily Sir Tim was there when we needed him Jill had known him and he was a Dom of the house so I went to him and sure enough he was the perfect fit for us. Being bi means that all sides are met but it does not exclude three straights from coming together for a good fit either we know of two sisters who love the same man and all live together and they make it work as well. The real concern is the third person and finding how they fit to complete the triad. This takes more conversations between the three to make it work and more work as well but don't let this stop you from making it work. My first sir had a saying work divided is work accomplished faster. Also being bi has made life easier for all five of us. It becomes very defined rolls and yet very loose rolls as well.
In B.D.S.M. you have the sub and you have the Dom and as the sub you have built the trust between the both of you and have discussed those points of his control that you have agreed to he is the boss in certain things and you have your own tasks to carry out and so does he/she but you always defer to them in all things. and they take the responsibilities for success or failure on their shoulders on a daily bases make no mistake this can be a heavy weight for them to carry. Now this may sound like some kind of tribute to my sir but it is not meant to be it is just a statement of facts. We ladies get up at 4 am sir is up earlier because coffee and some thing sweet is wheeled into the room by him he then goes down to the office to work and check progress of the 4 ranches and two farms we own and he runs hopefully there are no problems but he still does not finish going over things till breakfast at 8 luckily we have others to do the morning chores. After breakfast he then works with the horses training and caring for each horse while the hands help with the running they need caring for the bulls we keep the pigs the sheep the elk and a lot of the little but needed things answering questions and directing both here and on the other properties vie phone stopping every time one of us come to him with something he does this till dinner. After dinner he goes back to the office and does the books hopefully the other ranches and farms have reported in he finally comes to bed around eight to find out how our day went.
Now add in 4 type A ladies who need to be soothed and kissed and coddled before they can get rid of the days affairs he gets to sleep between 9:30 and 10 only to raise at 3:30 to get ready for the next day. You can see he has very little time to himself if we where all to go to him with our individual issues you will wind up with either a walkaway Dom or one who has just had a be committed for a long rest. Do you see the problem now the only way for a poly and D/s relationship to work is for the subs to settle the majority of the daily things that come up. The saying we use a lot here between us subs is his job is to care for us our job is to care for us and him.
