NOTE: please excuse me if I stray into or use a word that you have to look up.
Over the years that B.D.S.M. has grown and changed some principals of the lifestyle have changed and some of value have been lost for good or bad this is just the way of it. Example: online no one thought of this back then. Back then there was a rule governing just about everything, now things have become more free flowing and made to fit a more laxed life. However back then there were temporary and permanent collars temporary were used for play partners and trainees. For the chosen few there are life collars. These are collars that are given to those who are life partners and were given in a ceremony similar to wedding vows but not the same because you can always divorce a partner not so with life partners you could set them aside but you must and are responsible for them till they die.
As you can see Life collars for a Dom are a very major decision and for the sub as well why, simple if he calls you must come or risk expulsion from the community. And even exposure is not worse because even if exposed you would still have the community to care and cherish you. But along with this decision comes the inevitable "no one lives forever" So back then a rule that became a custom and then lost was the rule that you as their Dom provide a guide for your sub one who would help you over the ruff spots that life throws your way. In the vanilla world this would fall to the oldest child in the family in OUR world it falls to a selected Dom to care for your sub he acted as guide and would remind the sub to do your daily devotions and rituals. This does not mean sex and love of that kind but it has been known to happen. In this life every one Dom or sub needs a mentor some one more experienced in the life to help them get through this and come back to wanting to live again.
Example: Sir James being much older then his young ladies this Job fell to Sir John who acted as guide and me as mentor to his ladies as time wore on sir John has stopped guiding for four of sir James ladies but still acts as Guide for two of them and of course I still act as mentor to all of them. As you can see and compare the modern Guide can and is called a protector on line. and for the fortunate, a guide if they can be there for them in real life.
Any questions will be answered as fast as I can bare in mind that I may ask questions my self to help me answer you to your needs.
