responsibility
Now due to the fact that we are not only involved in B.D.S.M. we are also poly. And this creates another part to the dynamic that we live by, your subs may already have a bond with another sub. I myself did not have this problem when I met and fell for Rita but many do and while adding another dimension to your dynamic it also presents another aspect to consider as far as your responsibility. The last thing you want is to come between them you want to become part of that bond and you want to be the Dom of that bond. Either way remember time is your friend along with honesty and care. You can't just walk in and say you are mine now this will result in one of three things a) loud and prolonged laughter b) greatly damaged body or c) death.
I do not want to make light of this but you will find at least in this house you will deal with a certain type of sub and that is the alfa. While this is great they are strong independent and fearless but they have a strong tendency to take to much on themselves causing an emotional imbalance that they disregard on a regular bases. And this is the reason they need a beta Dom and they must learn that he is looking out for them. They must learn to trust his judgement that a break is needed. In the house we call this personal time and it is the Dom's responsibility to make and enforce that time this is time spent one on one this can be a daily thing or at the very least once a week but we try to give each sub two hours at least every other day.
Now you may ask why is this the Dom's responsibility, remember alfa sub's they love their work and constantly ignore the build up of the pressure of the work and if not watched can cause emotional behavioral and physical problems that creep up on them over time. However if the Dom keeps his eye on them by talking regularly this can be stopped before it becomes a problem for all. While it is true women enjoy the cuddling as much as the sex it should be noted that the sex is just as important they need the release of the hormones that only comes from a completely exposed and vulnerable release this is the reason that the aftercare in our lifestyle completes the transformation of the sub back to stability in all aspects of life.
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