What is happiness? Everyone is going to answer that question differently because, simply put...everyone is different. You might get answers that range from being rich to just being content with your life to being able to travel to loving the place you live at. Nobody is going to answer that question the same as anyone else. There are common threads though....and in a relationship, happiness is essential to the survival of said relationship. One of the most often repeated phrases I have heard about a relationship is "Happy wife, happy life." Yes, that is true...but it shouldn't be about just the wife's (partner's) happiness. You need to be happy as well, and that happiness was not there for me and my kitten for a long time. I was doing everything that I thought of to try and make her happy, but we only seemed to grow further apart. It got to the point that, while I didn't dread going home after work, I was somewhat resigned about it....and I didn't understand why that was...not entirely, at least. Our relationship was suffering, badly, and it was either going to end...or it needed some serious intervention. Kitten was spending almost every waking moment on an electronic device, scrolling Facebook, playing a game, talking with people I had no idea who they were, and just blocking herself off from the outside world. I would try and pull her out and she would for a little while, and then go right back into it. I was terribly unhappy, and it showed in my actions and my attitude...which made kitten more unhappy. I was constantly cranky, annoyed, easily aggravated, and stressed out all the time, which transferred to my kitten, and then it transferred back to me, and round and round and round....it took a drastic change in the dynamic of our relationship to break us from that cycle, and that change was my kitten telling me she was a sub/little, and that she craved being under control. Turns out, I needed to be in control, and had just never realized that fact. Once we figured that out...??? I haven't seen my kitten this happy in several years now, constantly happy, that is, not just moments of happiness. She bounces, giggles, flirts, teases, drives me crazy with desire again, and I just can't get enough of her. I'm happier, less stressed, more playful, and when I'm at work, I can't wait to get home to my kitten now. When I'm working now, I'm more relaxed, more joking around again, and fun to be around. It had been pointed out to me a few months ago at work that I had changed...that I was quieter, not as engaging, didn't joke around as much, and just seemed depressed more often. I had been asked several times if everything at home was ok, and just always said "yes," because I didn't know how to talk to anyone about home issues. Now, if anyone asks me how everything is? "Fucking awesome! That's what it is." Lol. I love my kitten, and cannot wait to get home to her. So I leave you with this tidbit....while it is important to ensure the happiness of your partner, it is equally important to to ensure your happiness as well...
And now, I have to head out to my motorcycle for the ride home....my favorite time if day to ride....cool and calm. Have a great day, y'all!
