I believe that every relationship needs a deep connection if it is to be successful....without it there will be more misunderstanding than needed...trust issues..unecessary fights.you name it. It doesn't matter what roles you choose to play....Dom ...sub....switch...other....it's gonna crash and burn if that connection isn't there....
But how do you get said connection? Maybe it's the tone you use....being genuine? Yea I said that cause there are some of you out there who are very oppressive in nature...abusive even....maybe it's the look you give....that little smile....who knows....I'll leave that up to you to ponder upon...but remember this.... Ppl get off in their dreams all the time...but the body and the mind...dare I even say and soul....when all three are in tune with eachother...and then connects with another person that's also balanced and at peace within....now that....that's what I think makes connecting worthwhile :) peace.