For the longest time as a Top I used to suck it up and tough it out. For so long I feel for that garbage believe that Tops must be Tuff ™. Now, I reach out to the bottom that I played with for comfort. To check in and make sure I’m not a monster for the things I said. Even though everything is consensual, when those endorphins disappear, you can start to question yourself and that is 100% normal.
Recently, I’ve also had comfort food around to help sooth me. I love broth, even in the summer, and that is a really comforting feeling to sip on scalding hot tomato broth.
One thing I plan to try going forward is naming 5 things I see in my environment. To remind myself that nothing bad is currently happening to me, that this is just a thought driven/brain chemical response. Or, if you have Pagan leanings like I do, to ground/Earth myself.
What do you do to manage your sub/Top drop? Let me know in the comments!
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