"I think I'd have to start with your scrumptious ear lobes. You won't believe how lovely it feels when a nice moist tongue slides up through the crease, nibbling and gently tugging on your soft cartilage. I'll whisper with my hot breath in your ear, confiding in you my craving to taste your delicious pussy."
Yes, I know that there are times that the sadistic dominant male in a BDSM relationships will bind and inflict pain play with their submissive toys solely for their amusement and from my masochist slave view point i greatly enjoy and understand that power exchange.
BUT!
The slow sensual arousal that builds when being treated with tenderness and when the dominant takes total control slowly, quietly and powerfully makes me weak and causes a major tingle.
Quoted from Psychology Today:
There are different ways for a person to be dominant, but researchers consider social dominance to include traits like being authoritative, in control, and taking a leadership role. However, such traits are not normally associated with kind, caring people.
Dominant people tend to be more self-centered and insensitive to others’ feelings, not traits most of us seek in a romantic partner. For dominant individuals to be seen as desirable mates, they need to combine that commanding personality with other traits that show a willingness to be generous and helpful. Women want a partner who is competitive with others but treats them well.
Evolutionary psychologists claim that women prefer dominant partners because such men have superior genes. Evidence has shown that women prefer more dominant men when they themselves are at the most fertile point of their menstrual cycle, whereas most men do not similarly seek out dominant women.
A good article that a new dominant might find interesting is:
What is Sensual Domination? It's seduction not aggression.
Yes for me, a true submissive personality, i love to have my mind stimulated by softly spoken words of what is going to be done with me and what i am going to be made to do.
Swoon!