Dom Thoughts

People have a habit of looking to others for answers before looking to themselves. Sometimes we should. Especially, when we are out of our depth. But sometimes we are all alone, and no one can help us. Those are the moments where it is important to find that little voice deep inside ourselves. The one we all have. It exists underneath all those layers of civilization, and domestication. It can be hard to act on. Most verbal thought is there to keep us from acting out of selfish instinct. It helps make sure we don't sacrifice reciprocal relationships for momentary needs. But when your safety is on the line it is time to be selfish and act on instinct. Doesn't matter what side of the slash you fall on. Trust your Gut.

The reality is starting off as a Dom is a nerve racking experience. No matter how intergraded dominance is in your personality, or your sexual nature. Trying new things always requires failure to promote growth. And when you are responsible for someone else's well being your window of acceptable failures is small. So start small and go slow. The best advice I have found myself giving young men interested in getting into this lifestyle is this simple, Step 1: Don't Be a Dick

Taking Charge doesn't mean doing whatever the hell you want regardless of who it hurts.

It means Taking on the responsibility for what happens next, and whatever the consequences are YOU are now REQUIRED to Hold YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE 

Regardless of if you're high protocol, low protocol, or primal you are a Human Animal and you are capable of telling when someone becomes scared, panicked, and out of their depth. You are capable of taking the time to observe HOW someone is taking the pain you inflict, and make a judgement call on how close you are to their limit. You are capable of putting your pleasure and pride aside for the sake of someone else. You are capable of paying attention to someone else's needs.

So do that. Don't be a dick, and you can't go too far wrong.