Musings

Probably opening a can of worms here and kinda playing the devil's advocate, but hey, why not.
After reading several ads and profiles, something caught my eye. In many a profile/ad, the writer (I speak of females here as that is all I have read) claims to be either 'sub' or 'slave' or both. They then go on to say such things as, 'don't like ball gags', 'not into handcuffs', and the like. When declaring yourself a sub or slave, do you not relinquish your right to decide what you 'like' or 'don't like' or are 'into'? I full understand such things as blood, scat, bodily fluids and the like. These are, by common acceptance, beyond the 'norm'. And I understand that there should be a dialogue between master/sub. But is someone declaring themselves as a 'sub' or slave' permitted to qualify that statement? Are these things not for the master to determine?
Ok, I can feel the rising ripple starting already, soon morphing into a tsunami. Hey, it's just a stray thought and a question people.