It seems to be the newest BDSM phase. Everyone is a Brat.
What is a Brat. That depends on who you listen to.
Well since you are listening to me I'll tell you my idea of a Brat.
This is a woman that loves to be submissive but wants her Master to work for it. To put in some effort to make the "scene" more than just her rolling over and being tied then fucked.
Don't get me wrong she really wants to be fucked but on her terms.
She may spend a lot of time getting dressed, getting her hair done just right, getting her nails done and putting on makeup. She has invested a lot of time and energy in making herself beautiful and alluring and the last thing she wants is not to be appreciated for all the effort.
This thing called BDSM is more of a mind set than something to attain. As you are well aware (or at least you damn better well be) of it begins with TRUST but it is much much more than that. It is also about SHARING and HONESTY and being AWARE.
When your sub goes out of their way to be extra sexy, beautiful and alluring then TAKE FUCKING NOTICE, take a shower put on some clean clothes, make an effort to look attractive. Believe me if you do this for her she will pay you back a hundred fold.
And for all you VANILLA couples out there this applies to you as well. Open your eyes to your Partner, look at them as if this was your first encounter.
Guys be nice to her, treat her well. Don't be a DICK, unless your name is RICHARD but still don't be a DICK.
And to that young couple just starting out in BDSM, RELAX, take a deep breath and relax, first enjoy each others company, explore each others body intimately and get very comfortable doing so and just let it happen. No pressure, no performance, just be together and let it happen when it is time. You are young and have you whole life ahead of you.
Lord Steele
