“What's my motivation?” Said the actor to the director about the part he was to play.
What’s my motivation at work, why am I here?
How about... Work or get fired?
What’s my motivation to...?
Can that apply to relationships? Certainly.
Do you know how to be successful in a relationship?. Provide what is needed or wanted
By the other party.
It's been said that "men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love."
The key word is "use." If you are using something to get something, you a user
very simply put. You're conniving your way into what you want.
So, in a relationship, do you know what your partner wants, really wants?
Are you familiar with the five languages of love? If not get the book.
I hear people talk about love languages, and they know perfectly well that their partner
wants to be touched intimately as a show of love, yet they can’t be bothered
to do that.
The guy who wrote men are from mars women are from venus in one
of his seminars said to all the women in the place. “What can you do
that takes 5 minutes of your time and will have your husband eating out
of your hand and following you around like a puppy dog?” Do that and see
if it helps your relationship.
The other man’s grass is not always greener, unless he takes better care of his lawn.
OK, how about some more brass tacks term... for him who knows to do good and
doesn’t do...for him it’s a sin.
You live in a home, it has a fireplace, it is cold in the living room, how do. you overcome
this insurmountable problem. Build a fire,
You could sit and look at the fireplace, beg it for heat, even offer to do wonderful
things for it if it will just give you some warmth.
Put some wood in it.
If. your relationship needs fixing, find out what the other person in it needs
and supply it. But don’t do it to get them to do something, do it because it’s
the right thing to do, not expecting something in return.
Yeah but what do I get out of it??????
That attitude will get you everywhere you deserve to be.
Just a thought.