This one is NOT about food

Good early morning Cage friends, 

It has been quite some time since I have poked My head out of hibernation. I haven't been gone as I have been checking in and reading the thoughts and experiences of the community but I hadn't felt led to share this stage of My development and O/our journey. So I have been silent behind My screen, reading, enjoying life and working at building the future I desire. 

Today I wanted to share some thoughts about how times change, and seasons shift. 

It was actually something that I was really struggling with, as snow began to fall I lost the ability to go out and spend My time pursuing one of My favourite passions: golf. There was a span of time where the Friday I went out to play with friends and within 24 hours more than a few inches of snow hit the ground and there was an immediate swing from "you can golf" to "screw you try it now". I was struggling with the emotional fallout of handling the loss of something loved. Yes I know its a silly thing to get bent out of shape over but it began to put in the forefront of My mind the concept of seasons changing. 

Now you can take it literally and think about the weather, but change in itself can be a hard thing to navigate. As much as I was dealing with the loss of being able to golf I began to think more deeply about how the season's of My life will change. And the words "There Will Come A Time...." popped right into My head. 

I realized the value of what is, and learning to find acceptance and understanding that the nature of life is to move and shift. Things will improve or get worse. They will get better indefinitely or in some cases utter destruction will unfold in a single moment forever altering the rest of Y/your existence. That's a really tough pill to swallow. Who wants suffering? Who wants pain? (Okay masochists not included.) But part of finding peace and acceptance in what is means taking responsibility for O/our choices that lead U/us on that path. 

Now not being able to golf for the next 6 months sucks for Me. It isnt the world ending and in the grand scale of life those are small potatoes, but it still stings because of the love I have for golf and spending My time golfing. Yet there will come a time in My life when I create the opportunity to golf year round, but that time is not now. 

I had to find a way to accept the snow on the ground and shift My perspective on what stage is My life at right now, and recognize it will not always be that way. There will come a time when My slave lives with Me, but now isnt that time. There will come a time when I am free from My financial burden, but now isnt that time. There will come a time when.... Those words rang loud in My ears and I stood back and took a moment to sit in My loss and grief and then I began to refocus My gaze. 

Just as when I went through My divorce I had to put intentional effort to "not allow bitterness, resentment and anger to fill My heart" here and now upon the season's change in My life I had to find a reason to become joyful and excited about this change. I had to give Myself something to look forward to, because W/we don't live in the past. I can't get back what yesterday was, but if I put effort into making today a springboard to launch Me into My future then I can find peace, acceptance and joy knowing I am building the future I desire for My household. 

Now, I am excited about the prospect of turning My attention towards the steps I need to take in order to meet the goals I have set for Myself. 

I set a goal nearly 4 years ago to be able to accomplish a physical feat that I haven't met yet. I can dedicate this time towards building strength and improving My physical well being. I can take the fact that I won't be spending My resources on golf to refocus on paying off My debt. This coming year I intend to be debt free by April 1st. I'm not sure if I will be able to meet that goal, but I can make intentional choices over the next 5 months to live frugally to ensure I put Myself in the best position possible to achieve that goal. 

I sought out ways that I can make this "loss of golf" season one that is abundantly fruitful in helping Me achieve what is necessary to propel My life towards the ends I desire. Shifting My perspective and focus has been instrumental in turning around My emotional satisfaction. Instead of focusing on what I have lost, I am looking at what I can gain inside this new season and the ways that it can be productive for Me. It has made a night and day difference in My attitude to get up in the morning, to go to work, to spend My free time, to look for opportunity and ways to keep improving. 

I know there is great suffering and loss in the world right now. I know E/everyone is fighting their own personal battles and handling their own struggles. Some situations are so dire that no amount of effort from any 1 person can change the circumstance, but I pray that Y/you will find the resolve to not give in to despair. To remain steadfast and strong despite the overwhelming challenges. The world is a broken place filled with broken people just trying their best to simply exist. Humanity is showing the worst of itself in so many ways, in so many lives and it isn't a simple thing to overcome. I pray that hope will find its way into Y/your heart and that Y/you will be renewed. 

I am incapable of changing the world, but I hope I can shift and improve the immediate sphere of My influence. I hope My words will reach those who need it most, and that little by little positive change will begin to impact their lives. 

To those that read My words today, I thank you. I hope Y/you find encouragement for Y/your journey and perhaps for some a single step to begin the path into healing. 

Mstr J

Good day Cage friends, 

Today is a momentous occasion. 

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The final amount paid off for my line of credit. This is the first massive milestone for my goals and future opportunity. It is a small step in the overall goals because there are still hills (previously mountains) ahead of me. But this is a milestone 3 years in the making. 

There is joy, jubilation and my very own reward for achieving this mark. I intend to go and get fitted for golf clubs sometime within the next week and a half although the clubs will still take time to get. It's all a process and nothing is accomplished inside of a day. 

Yet one day can be a turning point in growth, healing and transform the trajectory of your existence. My future is forming. Bit by bit. 

I am excited and overjoyed at what will come next. 

I hope you keep working towards your goals and see progress in all that you attempt. Dont discount the failure and struggle, moving through those spaces can grant you strength and newfound confidence you never imagined possible. 

Mstr J

Good evening Cage friends, 

It has been a hot minute. 

Honestly there is so much that has changed since the last time I constructed a blog. Life is radically different and yet similar in so many ways. 

The thing is I am still very focused on getting my life sorted and moving forward. I have managed a lot of progress and each day grows just a tiny bit more. Here's a small tidbit about myself you may not know. 

As a young man I was often lost inside myself with my own fear and doubt. It led to my procrastination which would compound issues and put me exactly where I feared to be. At a deadline, without proper preparation and doomed to failure. Or at least that was how it felt. Sometimes I could manage to throw together a project the morning it was due or delay getting ready because I still had more time in the day. Each moment led into the next and each choice we make leads us down the road we are already travelling. 

My slave has just arrived back at the satellite campus after having 10 days together. She landed within 24 hours ago and now has to go through the process of "getting back to life". The thing is her fear and doubt and anxiety wasn't there when she was asked to run the task of going back to her satellite campus because it is already part of the process of taking each step to walk back home. She isn't leaving, but she is on an errand and will be home soon. She hasnt left, she is just gone grocery shopping. She is running to the pharmacy. She is showing up for work. She is being a mother, a boss, a person with responsibility that she is in charge of. She is also finding ways to impact change because of the opportunity that is being presented to her. 

Often when W/we have discussions I will call myself an opportunist and so does my slave. The thing is Mikayla is picking up my habits and forming them in her own way. My family is running in an event this summer that is geared towards raising money for cancer. Mikayla will be here in the summer when it's going on and has asked to participate along with my family. Not only has she offered but W/we are working on a way to get her school involved and hopefully create a way for meaningful growth and participation from her students. It is remarkable to see the way she has begun to adopt part of my mannerisms and methodologies. It is the small ways in which W/we mimic one another that brings U/us closer together inside O/our dynamic and individually. 

I have been working at healing not only within myself but those that hold value in my life. I am working at creating healing in a lot of different ways and each matter requires a slightly different approach. Healing is not an instantaneous process. While there may be moments and bursts of miraculous large workings that jump progress forward oftentimes it is the diligent, consistent time and energy that yields results. Its not just healing that takes this time but the manner in which you build your life. 

O/our existences are the summation of O/our history. From trauma to pain and suffering either by our O/own hands or someone else's all the way through positive and joyful experiences. 

Right now inside the last 1203 days I have had a radical shift inside and outside of my life. Where I was just over 3 years ago was a broken man trying to put his life back together. My finances were a disaster, my marriage had ended and I was lost in negativity, self doubt and anguish. It took rebuilding my basement, finding a roommate, pushing myself towards small and medium goals, developing a relationship with myself, developing a relationship with someone who was close to me and morphing that into a full dynamic. It was about consistency. It was about taking each day working towards something. It was about working at giving myself closure for the wrongs I had committed and the things that had been done to me. 

Now I have much work to accomplish but part of that process I set a goal for myself. It was an exercise in practicing self awareness and granting myself space to learn and become 0.01% better than I was yesterday. After 581 days of consistency I have managed to reach all sorts of personal goals. 

Right now the most joyful moment I am ready to celebrate is my accomplishment for my finances. I am about to finish paying off the first third of my debt. I owe myself and I owe my parents. I am on the cusp of paying myself off. I am about to turn a corner and focus my attention on the next phase of the necessary journey to preparing my life. In order to properly receive my slave and her daughter I need to have my space and my life ready to accomodate and support them. Each small bit of progress can get lost when you look at the last day or week or month when you feel lost and angry. It can be overwhelming when all you see is the failure and despair of what has been lost. 

If you start to look back at the process of healing, if you realize that it takes time and you give yourself the grace to start the process you will be surprised with how far you can come in such a short time. 

It takes dedication and sacrifice to build the life you want. It takes patience and perseverance. Its not easy and many times you may feel like giving up but sometimes all it takes is one day to shift all of your perspective. Suddenly the weight you felt isnt there anymore and you didn't even realize when it happened. You start to look back and recognize that you are different than you were a month or two or six ago. 

Sometimes it takes a firm hand to guide you to that place. Sometimes it takes a gentle nudge to course correct along the right path. Sometimes it takes a complete stop, turn 180 degrees and begin walking again. Each one of U/us is unique and requires O/our own way that W/we best receive. Acknowledging when you are effective, when you use the best approach for the way that speaks growth and movement forward for the responsibility that you have accepted.

We don't always see the landmines, and sometimes they will blow up in our face. Sometimes We cause harm especially if We have been negligent in Our duties. Part of taking responsibility though is to also give Ourselves the chance to grow from Our experience. It takes walking into the fire and learning how to navigate that space well and what to do when We miss the mark. When We get burned and burn those that come to rely on Our strength. Because Our actions can have longstanding impacts on Our s types that choose to serve Us. It takes time and grace to learn. We need to be patient with Our slaves and understanding that life is a process. You take it one day at a time. You navigate what is in front of You while planning the path ahead. The choice You make right now will build the future. Make sure You take the time to ensure You have an idea of where Y/you are heading. 

I am learning to process of not rushing. I am learning patience. I am building something excellent and beyond wonderful and I am brave enough to trust inside the strength of my slave and inside of Myself. I am teaching my slave to work at trusting inside of My strength. W/we have found a lot of growth inside O/our dynamic over the last 10 days, and W/we are moving in the right direction. It may take another 2 and a half years or maybe 10, but the life W/we want is slowly taking shape. Patience and persistence. 

I hope those that read my words today take heart and walk T/their journey with grace and wisdom. 

Mstr J

Good afternoon Cage friends, 

Its been a hot minute since I've felt led to write but last night I watched a video making fun of something I enjoy in a satirical way and I felt there was a relevance to life and the lifestyle, so I wanted to share parts of my life and where this thought was born. 

Balance is the cornerstone of progress. 

So in the video I was watching the creator was poking fun about how "if body weight exercises worked then you wouldn't need to do anything since you move your body all the time". 

Now this isn't incorrect, but I don't know if he is ignorant or simply trying to make a joke. In calisthenics you use balancing your body to create the weight and resistance you lift. So if you intentionally set a balance point at an easier progression you can actually build strength and mobility at that level. Eventually through consistency you will build what is required to be capable of the next extension. By increasing the lever your body creates you increase the amount of weight you move. This makes all things more challenging, which means once you reach new skills and ability you can do more. 

I also had an interesting conversation. As I was driving to the calisthenics park today I got a phone call. So I pulled over and answered. During the conversation I voiced some thoughts that had been swirling inside of me. I have allowed negativity to build inside of me, it has slowly been taking more control inch by inch. But the words voiced were this: "I am flawed and broken, but I can and will build myself and improve everyday". I want to grow and improve. I want to achieve excellence in the areas I choose that hold interest to me. I will change and I will bring change. I will bring prosperity and healing. 

I have so many goals that are forming. There is more to balance than just navigating your physical self. You have to balance and manage your time. When you set and move forward in one area others will fall behind. So its choosing how and where you use your time. Its the most valuable resource we have and it can be easily squandered. How do you know if the way you spend your time is the "right" way? If the way you spend your time matters to you at the core of who you are. 

My slave and I had some discussions the other day and everytime I speak with her I just gain new understanding as she helps me open my eyes and see new perspectives that I had never considered before. The thing is W/we have a number of things going on at the moment. There are things that change in life. Learning how to navigate what happens and creating a known plan to tackle each thing in the order most appropriate. Finishing the last thing thats almost done, then take care of the physical health and well being. Build your resources to afford the next stage of change, create knowledge and understanding of short term, medium and long term goals. Give a path that allows them to see and walk. Its about setting the priority for each moment, and readjusting when the next unknown hazard and obstacle makes its way in front of you. The thing is you don't always know the best way to help and make positive change. Sometimes you need support and advice. Thats why you allow the opportunity to see a professional that is hopefully knowledgeable and talented within their field. Thats where you can lean on gathering information to make an informed decision by getting input from your property. Its also that moment when you understand new information that will alter the priority for different circumstances. 

So a brief example from life: Mikayla had damaged her foot, and initially it seemed obvious where the damage originated from. The thing is there was a second area that was hurt hidden behind the first one, and now she needs to go see her doctor on Monday. It happens to be the weekend and she already has a previous appointment on Sunday for her teeth. There likely won't be time to get 2 appointments done on Sunday so the earliest she can see her doctor would be Monday. 

Now, Mikayla will be able to share this new information and we will gather the next options for care. Then I need to select which path forward into healing she will walk. I am certain she will be fine and that this will just take time to get her back to her usual self, at which point I will progress into the next stage of creation. This has been a long time coming but the effort will pay off. We will reach goals and then move the goalposts. Acquire new abilities and then set our sights higher. Grow individually mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and grow together. 

She gets here on January 25th at 22:08. There are only 2 months until she is here. I have lots to work on and prepare for her arrival. I'm excited for what the future will bring. 

To those that have read my words today I hope you find something helpful to your journey. I hope you find progress and forward momentum into your goals. 

Mstr J

Good morning Cage friends, 

It has been a bit of a minute. 

I haven't written anything in a long time as I have been working hard to obtain certain goals that hold meaning to me. But much has changed in the last few weeks. Time has slipped by and as I walk forward I realize that I am in a season of prosperity. 

But while the Season of the Crow is still ongoing there may be more yet to discuss as time moves. Because life changes every minute. Things can improve just as quickly as they fall apart. There is an ebb and flow to life. We enter many different seasons. 

For myself I have been attempting to learn some lessons and grow. It was interesting to realize a situation at work the other day. Now to put this all into perspective there needs to be some background about the situation. 

I was attending my family's Thanksgiving weekend last Sunday and during the time shared there my father spoke to me about anger and wrath. He told me "be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to wrath." So of course in any fashion where a lesson is being taught there was a different experience where I walked straight into my own anger. 

I had been working a long day after the holiday. Typically when there is a day of rest many people think we close our operation at work but we work non-stop. There is no day that we close our doors and we work 365 days a year. I mean I do have a rotation that I work alongside of different individuals but I'm part of a team that each of us operate on the given day. It is just decided who gets to lead. So how jobs get handled is at their discretion and the other guy gets us there safely. 

Each has their own role and responsibility. So this day after a holiday when some people think we close for the celebration it ends up they call the next day which happens to get inundated with work. As I had the lead for how jobs got handled I gave my best customer service I could. I tried to be helpful and get through everything that was on the list for the day. I wanted to try and leave an easier shift for the night crew coming in after me. 

The thing was I did a really decent job. There was only 1 job that I didn't do a satisfactory job on at the very end of the day but part of being on a team is realizing I make decisions but I still need to reach a consensus when it comes to personal time. My work partner did not want to work late and chose to get through the least significant of the last jobs that would be on the way back to the office so we didn't cut into what he had planned for the evening. 

As a result this one job was dealt with, but not in the manner I'd hoped. It still was resolved to a degree but it didn't have as much as I could have done to properly finish that job. There were still some actions left for me to accomplish there that may have helped with the next steps. 

But after this long day I was on my way home and while I was stopping to get some food and some groceries I had a moment. I was trying to turn left and for whatever reason in the near black middle of the night I could not make this left hand turn because of traffic. There was a gas station that people were frantic to fuel their vehicles and there were many people who were just trying to get home after filling their tanks. 

At one point in the lineup of vehicles someone turned into the space I needed to go, and the one very last vehicle left decided to slow down and stop. This person had to slow down because the person in front of him turned right. They decided to continue slowing to a stop to let me through because they must have felt bad, or felt compassion, or just wanted to do a nice thing. 

The crazy part is that being given permission to turn left drove me up the wall insane with anger. I was so completely frustrated that they didnt just keep driving because the space behind their vehicle was quickly dwindling as more cars were turning out of the gas station. My window to get through the intersection was rapidly diminishing. Yet when this random stranger gave me exactly what I wanted I responded in outrage and anger. 

I was so dumbfounded when I finally turned left. As soon as I made it into the parking lot I couldn't understand why it was that I couldn't just accept the compassion offered by this person. Whatever their reasons they stopped for me. Part of it may have been convenience since they were already slowing down, or maybe they really wanted to help make my day better. I have no idea. But I know I was confused by their actions, which led to disbelief and the fear of losing my opportunity. The one that I had worked to try and achieve on my own. But as it stood being given the chance to reach my goal immediately removed all the figuring I had to do. Sometimes the answer just falls in your lap. But I get to choose how I react to it. 

Do I yell and get angry?

Or do I accept the offer with grace and gratitude? 

In all moments I get to choose my actions. I get to decide the path forward but the question is what qualifies me to lead? While all Dominants consider themselves leaders, alphas, lone wolves, the question is what drives them? What speaks deeply to your soul and how do you wish to choose to live your life? 

For myself I am led. 

I follow my own internal understanding. I look at what I know. What I have been taught. I look at the way I view the world and I begin to operate based upon my thoughts and understandings. I ask for growth, clarity, understanding, Wisdom and so many different things. Each day is a little different because I change. Some days I'm much stronger in one area of my life. 

Consider this. 

Recently I have been improving in my golf game and as I develop and work I actually managed to break under 100. I shot a 99 at my home course and a 97 on a course that "I was gonna have revenge" (for a previous bad round of 122). Each day I go out and learn my golf game some days I have great shots with my driver, solid long irons and my short game is just atrocious. Other days I struggle to drive the ball but make up for it with solid short game that kind of helps improve my score. Or really bad days where all things are missing and I struggle non stop. 

We are flawed as humans. We struggle and deal with defeat. We have to work at moving through difficult situations that hold and tether us down. The first thing that defeats us is the mind. It shackles our body more than any binding. Working to accept and move through, to evolve and find the next version of who you are meant to be. 

For myself I am reaching new heights and achieving new areas of life. Tonight I have a friend over and actually had my roommate seemingly enjoying the company of the friend I brought. There was laughter and stories and photos and food. It was amazing to have different areas of my life come together and begin to really truly fit. 

The thing is my friend and I are actually going to play two different courses tomorrow(which is later today since it happens to be after midnight). We have a tee time for a golf course just 40 or 45 minutes away, first thing in the morning and then on the way back home we will stop and see if the home course I enjoy (and play the most at) is busy or not. Depending how we feel we may immediately go home but the intention is to play 36 holes of golf. 

There is lots to accomplish. Much to improve. Many opportunities right around the corner. I know my best moments are coming, I am working to improve all areas of my life and I will reach the goals I set. 

To those that read my words today I thank you for your time, I hope something I have written will resonate and help you cross a tumultuous season you may be facing right now. 

Good afternoon Cage friends, 

Its been a little while since I have written here. Life has been full and busy. There are so many wonderful moments and events that have opened my path within the last 48 hours. Progress is being made in leaps and bounds. 

It's been really interesting to look back on my walk and realize how far it is that I have come. How far I have reached in a relatively short time, but it takes reflection and a pause looking back to recognize that where I am now is radically different than 2 months ago, 6 months ago, a year, two years ago. 

It seems in this day and age people are looking for the easy path forward. The quickest way to earn money. The best life with no effort put forth. The easiest walk. While that can be renewing for a time there is something about pain and adversity that forges who you are. Walking the easy path can seem joyful yet there is no growth on that path. It is through adversity and continuing to take a tiny step each day that you walk out of that darkness and into strength and courage. Giving up is easy. Staying stuck is easy. Complaining and lamenting your position is easy. But walking, continuing to walk, showing resilience by not giving up is very difficult. 

I have been searching to understand pain and what it means to me and how I wish to use that within my dynamic. I have not yet reached a full conclusion but I know I want it to have meaning and intention with a purpose of reshaping and creating healing. Take for instance Mikayla's adventures in oral hygiene. She went to get braces and the first few days were a bit agonizing. It was pulling and reshaping her physical structure. But as time wore on she became adjusted and the pain lessened. She became used to it. Now within a week there will be a visit to take the next step, readjust her braces and tighten them so that she must begin her walk through pain in order to achieve my vision for her form and well being. It will push her into the next stage of alignment and that is where growth, healing and eventually relief will be found. 

I was having a conversation with a coworker earlier this morning and expressing how I no longer identify with the old version of who I am. In many areas of my walk I was faced with stress and burden. As I have walked through it I no longer comprehend the fear, anxiety and worry that I faced when looking down the barrel of my ordeals. I am free and working my way forward into new and exciting areas of my life. Planning a future in so many different ways, working at achieving excellence in the hobbies I enjoy, mastering my self and working at becoming a better version of who I am 1% each day. 

I really like the analogy of brushing my teeth. In 6 months I could choose 1 day to brush my teeth for 6 hours. But that wouldn't do me very much good. Or I could choose to brush my teeth just 2 minutes everyday for those 6 months and while I would eventually reach those 6 hours it would be much more complete and healthy to work at it little by little each day. We expect to just immediately easily have transformation that radically shifts life but that just isnt the case. It takes dedicated effort each day to take 1 step, 1 inch, 1 push forward. Choosing to say I will select my mental health and work at finding peace, finding harmony, finding serenity. Then do something that fills that space and creates that in your life. But you have to apply it to what your struggle and life experience is. 

For me it was waking up with enough time to have a shower, take care of some self grooming and watering my plants and herb garden before I left for work. But I ran out of time. I still have dishes and laundry and so much more I need to accomplish. But I managed just what I could in the time I had before work and I feel so good about the effort I managed because I took good care of my self and property to the best of my ability. 

If you don't take a step you will forever be stuck in the darkness. It takes movement, slow and steady to walk through that space. It doesn't happen all at once. Many times you may feel like you are failing, not doing enough, not finding answers. Like the world is crashing down around and on top of you, like you are suffocating. Just keep moving, keep walking, keep trying. Identify where your needs lie, and make 1 small effort to address that need. Then do it again and again and again and again. You get to choose what action you take, and how you want to live. You get to make your choices for your life. No one else understands the impact and effect of the struggle you are walking and while it can help to have support you alone hold the power to make change in your life. 

I am still searching and finding my own answers as to how I want to utilize pain within my dynamic but it can be an excellent teacher. It can create the most growth, and it can flourish into something wonderful and healing if approached in the right way. 

To those that read my words today I thank you for your time. I hope my words help those struggling on their walk and that you find growth and a renewed sense of purpose in walking through your pain. 

Mstr J

Good day Cage friends, 

Today I bring a piece of myself and part of my mentality within the D/s lifestyle. 

As humans we comprehend and understand on different levels. Some things are innate and simply apart of who we are. I feel though as an individual guiding a dynamic that it is important to understand how it is that your partner learns and grows. 

For myself I am a kinesthetic learner primarily and so feeling, getting hands on experience is very valuable to me. But I believe that complete learning is achieved through many mediums and part of the process is to identify which processes are most effective in conjunction together. Part of the process that I implemented with my slave when she came to visit me was a "sit and watch" mentality. I wanted her to observe me "in my natural habitat" to begin to understand what I do, how I act, my mannerisms and the way I like to do things. 

It was an active demonstration of the way I handle life and it gave her insight into the way I preferred to have dishes done, how laundry should and would be done, how to care for my property and a basic overview of how I manage my home and how I expect her to manage those aspects of life on my behalf. 

I feel that giving a showcase of how I operate gives her a great starting point to begin her tasks from while having the knowledge of how I work inside my home and for my home. Then during those moments as she began to take responsibility for those tasks I get to then take on the role of observing in turn, pushing her when she needs a correction, or redirection of how to finish a task. 

I find giving a demonstration by giving her time to observe enriches her learning and gives her the right tools to start in the correct place and then make tiny little adjustments as W/we develop into more complicated day to day affairs. By giving her space to watch and listen she gains knowledge and then giving her the space to try her hand and gain the experience herself really bolsters and cements the learning into her brain, heart, body and soul. 

Everyone has their way of instructing, teaching and guiding their submissive but I find this to be an effective method for myself and my girl. I strongly believe that a period of observation from both sides of the slash can produce extremely beneficial results during training. 

Now I wish to speak to a different aspect of dynamics, specifically long distance based dynamics. 

The moment that you have to leave "home". When Mikayla was scheduled to return back to her space it was a complete loss on many levels because she was leaving home. There wasn't anything positive about the idea and it was a deep internal struggle to be okay "with leaving home." Not only was she leaving home but she was hit with drop that has been impacting her for weeks since her return. Many different levels were impacting her well being emotionally and mentally. 

Part of guiding my slave is creating mental concepts that she can lean on for structure and to give her strength and support especially during difficult times. So while speaking with my parents about her departure I had a "eureka" moment. It was a classification and understanding of space and property that would allow me to explain to vanilla individuals a part of O/our dynamic and use key words that speak deeply to both of U/us but without raising suspicion and to give her the support she needed to return to her space. 

It is the concept of "The Satellite Campus". 

Getting to use the dialogue "It is space owned by the University but exists *points* over there." When communicating with vanilla folks kind of gives me a small thrill since I get to use the word "own" in regards to my property and yet they dont necessarily catch the significance of what that means to U/us. The importance of this concept though really is for the benefit of my slave. 

It gives her the task and responsibility of caring and becoming the caretaker for what is mine, gives her purpose and direction and allows her to accept the idea of "returning to the satellite campus". Instead of leaving home she gets to return to being my servant, my emissary responsible for managing my property and to gain experience practicing her skills of managing my satellite campus with the same level of care and energy she would devote to home. 

I believe in connecting concepts in tangible ways that grows the connection between U/us and gives a chance to deepen trust, communication and the bond W/we share. This idea helps give her strength to return to a semblance of normalcy and give her the courage and support she requires to make the transition back into her space. Part of caring for her is doing all that I am capable of to improve and promote healing in her life. 

I'm proud of some of the ways I have done that for her. I am very grateful that I have found ways to impact significant change inside of her life and how I have helped her blossom for me. Piece by piece things are falling into place, with the hopes that soon the future will be here. For now I just focus my intent towards February when she will next visit me in O/our home again. 

To those that take the time to read my words today I thank you, I pray that you may find some useful insight for your own journey. 

Mstr J

Good evening Cage friends, 

Today has been interesting. There is a fair amount of external pressure that I am currently facing. In order to move forward I have to go through the pressure. There is fear and anxiety that lives there. 

Many times over I have very little idea of how to handle or solve a problem. The concept of "making shit up as I go" often rings through my brain. In so many ways you can never know what decisions will truly yield positive results. But if you don't try, you won't ever gain experience. 

Coming home tonight I felt empty and a bit numb. The thing is I knew driving home that I would be alone and there was a sadness over the loss. The emptiness that would be found inside my home. The sadness could smolder like an ember and either catch fire or blow out. But I have enjoyed playing with my slave and her energy has been left all over my home. 

In so many ways I am ready for the future, but it doesnt get here by teleportation. You cant magically jump into the future, but you do get to build it day by day. Part of training is taking a skill and building it by 1%, slowly improving until after months or years of discipline you will have vast improvement and mastery. Its the process of learning a new skill and developing what you are capable of, and what is possible. 

The most critical thing I wanted to speak on tonight was the idea of extending my reach. Part of where I allow my slave to exist inside of my space by appreciating and savouring the last places she touched. In so many ways the way she left my space is part of her. All of the things she made better, all of the effort that was put into my food, the dishes she handled, the decoration that I had for ages and just never put up. 

One night I had a lot of fun and allowed Mikayla to become my ears. She has remarkable skills and I would be a fool not to use her talents and abilities. She has immense strength in visualization. Words become very powerful when someone has a strong imagination. She has expressed how effective using my voice is, which means choosing when and where and how you use your voice can effectively increase a given circumstance. The example that I wish to share tonight though is an example of being able to extend my reach in a way that helps to make long distance relationships grow and flourish how it can. 

I created a moment where during a particular time, Mikayla was having very sensitive hearing. She could pick up sounds that were subtle and damn near impossible to hear. So I closed my eyes and began to listen alongside her, and using her to call out what sound she was listening to I was able to identify what the sound was. It was interesting to utilize her as a sonar system trying to ping out where different noises were coming from. But by using her inside of my space I created an imprint of her energy in that moment. A snapshot of who she was, is and will be inside of my house. You can use the imprints of those moments to create her inside of your home. Likewise by building a piece of yourself inside of her, she will always have a way of finding home. It becomes a way to combat distance because no matter where you are, you are living for each other. Building the future bit by bit. Looking toward the next moment when the essence of energy becomes physical again. 

This month has been a lot of learning with lots of different examples. I know though that within myself there is still a lot of work to be done. I have a lot to build but I have time. I just get to work on the important tasks of my life daily. I hope to be able to share even more of progress the next time my slave ventures home. But for now she will just be an extension of my reach. 

Tiny update, she is in the air and about to be landing in Germany in about 3 hours. There was a delay with her current flight which means she will be missing her connection. This gives her a layover of 12 hours and means the final flight doesn't arrive until 2 am. There is also a drive from the airport to get home which means it's going to be a while before she makes it to her final destination with the need for a hotel or to find somewhere to sleep for the night. 

But I just finished a long day and I need to rest since I am working again tomorrow. 

To those that read my words today I hope you find some inspiration. Lets foster creativity. 

Mstr J

Good afternoon Cage friends, 

It has been an insane month. I am first immensely grateful for the time, energy, devotion and love I have received this past month. There has been so much that has occurred that it truly is difficult to try and find a way to put it all into words. 

Mikayla and I have had a remarkably successful month though. W/we have journeyed into life and both found it very fulfilling with joyful days, fun, work, tasks, events, time spent creating friendships with those around U/us and some miscommunication and hiccups. But no part of any decisions made has been regretted. No part would be done any other way because it was perfect and just right for U/us. 

Many aspects of this trip was to find what real 24/7 life would be for U/us. I set Mikayla tasks that I wanted and needed done, I gave her deadlines for certain projects (especially before the BBQ planned for my family) and many little things that became a part of daily life for U/us. 

The first thing to state is that I have eaten like an absolute King this past month. The fact that I have gained 10+ pounds is testament to that fact. The interesting thing is that for the first time in her life I was able to rekindle her passion for creating food. There was a conversation held about how she felt the culinary degree she had earned years ago had been wasted and not properly utilized until now. Past relationships that she had been in actually caused harm over food and meals. Many times over she felt restricted in the kitchen (and not in the fun way) Part of my joy is derived from bringing healing and affecting change.  Seeing her passion be rekindled for baking, for creating, for trying flavours and experimentation was such a blessing. Being the source of excitement and thrill because I brought home an ingredient that inspired a concept for a meal was fun to bear witness. I love being an inspiration, just as I know she loves to inspire in me. 

I had a critical realization during O/our month together. My childhood was excellent by most standards, but one area that was lacking was physical closeness. My father rarely ever hugged me and while my mom did give decent hugs I had a moment of clarity where my need for physical closeness had been lacking since childhood. It was just a moment where W/we were spending time together, my slave on the couch and I was just finishing some stretching. I went to kiss my slave and as W/we connected there was a deep seated understanding on a cellular level that my hug meter was depleted. That I had been missing "closeness" for a long time and I just needed to use my slave to refill my intimacy meter. It was about receiving service in a simple and innocent way, but she served as my teddy bear giving me much needed intimacy and closeness. To cuddle and almost melt into each other in the most comfortable way, it was rejuvenating. It was uplifting. It was what my soul needed to thrive and she knew her place was to serve. So she hugged me deeply and together W/we just embraced each other. 

W/we also had O/our fair share of mishaps and true life experiences. One day as I was enjoying a bit of free time playing some video games, Mikayla came into the room and told me "W/we had a problem." So I stopped my game and went to check what she was talking about. It turns out there was a clog in the kitchen sink. Water was backing up and wouldn't flow. So W/we got down and dirty trying to remove the issue trying different drain cleaner, snakes, plungers. Eventually I disconnected all of the traps under the sink and found part of the issue. The level of grossness that came out from under that sink was despicable. It was vile and stomach churning. But after all things got cleared and cleaned Mikayla found the true culprit of what had started the clog. It was 2 plastic straws crossed in an X holding all manner of sludge that created a perfect plug. Now part of O/our communication is that W/we frequently hold discussions about what happened, what went right or wrong about a situation and how could it be better. So W/we discussed what had happened, and understanding the cause of the issue realizing sometimes things just go wrong. Its not anyone's fault but W/we simply put O/our best effort forth to solve the issue. Now I had initially placed blame on Mikayla, I thought she had put "too much down the drain". Pointing the finger and saying you did wrong though wasnt helpful and in this case it wasnt even the truth. I had to acknowledge that my blame upon her was ill founded and that it was not her or anyone's fault. While it was not her fault I still imparted a correction going forward in how she could best serve me by trying to minimize any solids being disposed of down the drain. 

All of these events, moments of growth, understanding, learning, communication are the building blocks of creating O/our D/s life. Understanding myself, understanding what is important to me in everyday life and communicating those things is very important to creating her guidelines so that she knows where to walk. By creating the tension of my touch, by knowing the weight of my way, the manner in which I approach problem solving, the way I seek interaction, the tasks I set for her, how I speak, move, and where my joy is created builds my dominance and creates for her the guide to follow. I show her my way, she observes and reacts implementing what she sees and I correct guiding her more closely to my ideal. Its a balance. Its a push and pull. It takes understanding and careful observation, then communication and execution. Then start the cycle again and continue to grow together, working collectively towards the milestones, goals and path I set. 

It has been a tremendous month and W/we have a lifetime to continue on O/our path but it won't make the next few days any easier. But I hope to speak to her soul and give her stable footing that she can rely on and turn to such that the move from home doesnt hit as hard.

To those that take the time to read my words today I thank you, hopefully you find something worthwhile in witnessing a small portion of who W/we are. 

Mstr J

Good morning Cage friends,

Life has been insanely busy but I am abundantly grateful for that. Mikayla and I have nearly finished all of O/our preparations for the BBQ event W/we are hosting later on today. 

I was fortunate to grab a 4 hour nap but as such I now lay wide awake in the middle of the night (thanks night shifts) unable to fall asleep. I have been thinking over my week, the interactions, conversations and moments and wanted to share my experiences and part of my approach. 

D/s is a magnificent thing. It's important to remember that it's exceptionally versatile and can be approached in 100 different ways. It's about finding what suits you. What resonates with your values and applying those aspects to your dynamic. It's about remembering that each s type is extremely unique and knowing what may have worked for your last submissive or slave may not be appropriate for your current girl and the current situation. You have to think. You have to use the information you have and then take the appropriate action that fits the situation. 

What I am speaking about is a really fundamental part of any dynamic. It's about correction. Correction is a very necessary (but scary) part of an established dynamic. I mean W/we all want the best of the dynamic, to be able to laugh and exist inside joy, fun, and just good times. But eventually something will happen and as the Dominant or Master you get to make a choice about how you handle it. Do you let this moment slide because it's not a big deal? Do you bring down the hammer of the harshest punishment because no other way will change her? Do you allow time to act instead of react to the situation? Do you choose to correct her in a subtle manner that over time will garner change? 

First I want to point out some considerations. 

How you approach the situation and finding the appropriate response takes information. Consider the impact to your slave and the most effective tool to help move her in the direction you need. It's also important to take stock of your slaves mental state.

Part of being aware of her mental state is recognizing that to a slave who dedicates all of her existence to you may be terrified of being corrected. In a newer dynamic (one that is still in the early stages of development) it's helpful to remember that if your slave has existed inside previous dynamics that they have experience with the failure of that dynamic. Their Dominant or Master made a choice to release them. The loss of a dynamic is heart wrenching, painful and difficult. When W/we connect in D/s its such a powerful thing but losing that connection can feel like losing your soul or a part of you. Picking up the pieces and moving forward isn't easy. So when you sit down to correct your slave realizing that creating consistency with correction is important. Not only to keep the dynamic moving forward in the direction you desire but also as a peace and mercy to your slave. Creating frequent moments of correction helps her mind understand that you are correcting her to ensure the health and well being of the dynamic. That things are going well, that she is still desired and that by taking the time to correct her behaviour you keep her on the path you intend. Getting blindsided by "Oh I'm releasing you today because you fucked up 3 times 3 months ago and now it really bothers me." Is absolute shit. I mean even in simple conversations of interest and getting ghosted I see plenty of blogs about no warning, no understanding, left hanging WTF. When that comes as a sudden and unexpected release of a slave its absolutely life altering, the world is upside down and I can't breathe or see straight. So understanding part of the tension, fear, and discomfort on the slaves part at being at your mercy when undergoing correction and when she comes to kneel the thought of "Did I fuck up enough to have this end? Am I about to be released for my mistake?" is important. Creating consistent natural and normal moments that teach her to trust in you, to rely on the actions and words you provide that you hold the dynamic and her well being inside of your hand. That you are holding her and not letting go can bring healing, peace and serenity to her mind while undergoing the correction. 

So lets go over some examples of what I'm talking about, and a few situations that Mikayla and I have walked through within the last week and a half. 

To start lets begin with the "internal self correction". 

Just over a week ago, Mikayla and I set about a day to go with my parents to hike up to an inukshuk I built with a friend years ago. W/we wanted to see if it was still standing, spend time with my family, enjoy some beautiful natural scenery and W/we had a project for the BBQ event that W/we were sourcing the materials from this hike. Now Mikayla has written her own blog about this moment and if you wish to share in her perspective you can check out her writing (and if I knew how to navigate the Cage on my phone better I would attach a link). As W/we finished the hike with my parents W/we said goodbye and set about O/our task. There was about a 2 km distance (or just under) from where the vehicle was parked to where W/we had piled up the rocks W/we had selected to create the fire pit. As W/we moved back and forth it became apparent that the bags brought were not of the best quality and couldn't sustain the weight of the rocks. The one backpack I was wearing did well enough but the other bags were quickly destroyed making the task even harder for Mikayla. I was moving at a quicker pace and soon W/we separated both carrying out the task at hand as best W/we could given our ability and resources to move the stones. It wasn't the easiest job. As I loaded up my backpack I also tried taking a stone or two in my hands but that was made difficult because of the water bottle I was carrying. So when I knew Mikayla was struggling and having a hard time at one trip when I got to the vehicle I set down her water, emptied my pack and went back for another trip. I thought to myself she will have the water and can rest and I will get the last bit sorted. When I passed her she told me she had been doing some thinking and needed to inform me of a mentality shift and I was grateful to know she had been doing internal work during this process. I gave her a hug (which hurt her) and told her I had left her water for her at the vehicle when she returned. But as she turned and continued on I didn't give her explicit clear direction to take a break and rest. I just said "I left your water at the vehicle." Now as I continued on the thoughts went through my head I should have told her to rest. The bag she was using looked damaged and frail like it could fail her at any moment. But I couldn't dwell on the fact I missed my chance so I got to the pile and loaded up the backpack and this time because I wasn't holding onto the water bottle I was able to fill my hands and arms with 5 stones. As I set back my pace was slow and I was just focusing on each step. My thoughts of hoping for Mikayla to sit and rest that she would wait for me by the vehicle quickly turned as I realized I had overloaded myself. Within the first 50 steps back I went from "I hope she rests" to "If she does return she can grab a couple of stones nearby and W/we will call it a day" to "Fuck I can't go any farther, if she can only take some of the weight out of my arms". As I trudged along I finally caught sight of her and as she called out I made my need known for her to help me. She took 3 of the 5 rocks, and suddenly I felt like I was making progress. My arms hurt but they didn't burn like they had been. My shoulder were sore from the straps of the backpack cutting into them but I realized I was done and with the time of the evening it was W/we needed to be done. W/we still had to stop at the Costco for groceries and there was a meeting I hoped to attend later that evening and if W/we spent anymore time here then W/we would miss it. So I called it a day, I told her W/we finished despite her desire to continue one and just get one more trip. I told her W/we would take what W/we had. If it wasnt enough then W/we would deal with that situation. But it was time to go. 

As W/we began the drive to finish O/our errands Mikayla began to explain to me what she had been going through. Where her mind and thoughts went. The process and shift of her mentality of where she began and where she ended. As I listened to her I was immensely proud. She understood that I hadn't asked her to keep pace. I never asked her to carry the same weight I did. She understood that she just had to try her best, to give her effort and move so long as I did. Now understanding that my slaves driving force is to serve me as well as she can. To the absolute highest level, to the best of her ability. Its why she will ask constantly "Where can I improve?" "How can I serve you better?" "What do you need right now?" "Do you need me right now?" "Give this a rating out of 10, and how could it be better?" Part of this process is self directed because at the core of who she is, she wishes to please me with her service. When Mikayla explained to me the shift in her mentality the thing was she took it upon herself to correct her behaviour and mentality because at that point I wasnt even aware that anything was amiss. I didnt have a clue what and how she was struggling and so there was no way I could have possibly corrected her. But she knew. She understood. And she did the work necessary to improve and self correct such that I didn't have to do a thing but sit and receive and hear how she made her own internal progress. Because there are moments in time that no one else can do the internal work necessary except ourselves. This is part of being self aware, part of desiring to serve the dynamic and your Person. The best thing to do is simply exist such that you can listen to the results of the hard work they have done and give an honest evaluation of where their mentality is absolutely correct or where it needs tweaks given your understanding and ultimate end goal. This form of correction is based upon ensuring at the end your slave has the right mentality and is following your Will. If she does her self correction and ends up in the wrong direction with the wrong mentality then you need to discuss and lead her where you require her to be. 

This next example is about timing, and being tactful. 

W/we were out running errands and decided to stop in for a short window shopping excursion at the mall nearby where W/we had just checked the local hardware store for materials for projects W/we needed to get finished. As W/we walked around enjoying the time together there was a store that Delilah wanted to stop in at. There was a moment of interaction that didn't sit well with me and I felt a little disrespected. Now at this moment I knew I needed to speak to her and go over what had happened, but W/we were in public and it was not appropriate at that exact time to give her a scolding. It would not have served either of us well and would have ruined the day. So W/we continued on and as far as she was aware nothing was wrong. I choose to set aside the disrespect I felt and continue going through and looking around. W/we had an amazing time and really enjoyed every moment and when it was time to go there wasn't any part of the day that was impacted negatively. 

Once W/we got into the privacy of O/our vehicle I brought up the interaction and W/we had an honest discussion about what had happened. I explained to her that I felt like she had disrespected me, and that her tone and manner did not align with my needs. Then I allowed her the chance to explain where, why and what had happened from her perspective. Part of the interaction was a misinterpretation of her intended tone and expression and my perception of where and how she was expressing herself. Really what it came down to was a miscommunication between U/us. As W/we discussed through what had gone on and where W/we had been misaligned in O/our communication part of an issue arose which is Delilahs ability to understand body language and expression to a degree. That has to do with the fact that she has aspergers autism. This has been a challenge all of her life and is not something easily overcome. In this area having patience to explain, express and share where there are miscommunications and where the expected guidelines for the future becomes the correction she needs instead of a scolding like I felt was initially warranted. I had to adapt my correction because of where the issue began and originated from and I would never have known that if I didn't ask and speak with her to gain the necessary information to truly understand the circumstance from both sides. 

The next example is about being human and taking into consideration your slaves response when a mistake is made. 

Yesterday as part of the preparation for the BBQ W/we still had many tasks to accomplish to finish preparations. One job that needed to be finished was to paint some sections of my house. Just a few weeks back I had gone through and reapplied some stucco on the side of my home to fix some cracks and seal around some windows with gaps just a little too large. As the new stucco dried it wasn't matched to the colour of my home and needed a coat of paint. W/we had recently set up tables and chairs and as Mikayla got ready with all the supplies and I opened up the can of paint I set about finishing my task of cutting some firewood for the smores we want to have towards the end of the BBQ. When she lifted up the paint can and moved over to begin her work the bottom edge got caught on the one chair and it bobbed and tilted spilling paint onto my deck and parts of her shoes. She immediately started grabbing paper towel and frantically began cleaning every bit of wet paint as quickly as she could. She took every action possible to fix her mistake. As I considered the correction required I began to think through "Has this ever happened to me?" And I immediately remembered something almost exactly like this and I knew how easily that could have been my mistake. I knew she did not intend to spill the paint. She wasnt willful, negligent or being disrespectful. It was an accident. It was a moment of being human. The important part for me was the fact that she immediately reacted to fix her mistake. She knew she messed up. She was so worried about getting the paint removed before it dried. But it was a hot day and once most of the liquid had been removed the tiny bit left dried immediately. She had no chance. So I got her to calm down and finish the task of painting the house. I told her that once she was done she would clean her brush and make sure all the paint was removed and I went downstairs and grabbed the leftover paint that matched the colour of the deck and set it outside for her to fix her mistake. She was to literally go over and fix her own mistake. That was the correction she needed. Now if she had reacted in a different way, if she was flippant or unconcerned about the well being of my property not only would correction be warranted but a punishment as well. Her response to her actions dictated the action I deemed as necessary for proper correction. 

In all correction I believe intention is important. I believe understanding is critical to responding with appropriate and reasonable correction. I believe that gentle small pushes in the right direction will yield larger results over the long term. I believe keeping up with small corrections will keep my slave from requiring larger punishments. I believe in a reasonable and fair approach of the punishment fits the crime. I also believe in the nature of my slave and that she wants the best for me and to serve me as best she can. To help her attain those goals knowing when to be lenient, when to be strict, when to push and to show her to trust in me that I will take the action I see fit when situations arise gives her what she needs to be my best slave. 

Now after writing nearly 3 hours its time I get some rest as W/we have a big day ahead of U/us. 

To those that read my words today I thank you. I hope this insight into my dynamic, how I choose to act, when I choose to act is helpful in giving context to the approach you may develop for your own dynamic and help you along your journey. 

Mstr J