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2 years ago. May 7, 2022 at 4:45 AM

“Every choice comes with a consequence. Once you make a choice, you must accept responsibility. You cannot escape the consequences of your choices, whether you like them or not.” 
~Roy T. Bennett 

I think that the first time that I really became aware that every choice has a consequence was the day I had to have a difficult conversation with my family. I realized that sometimes staying in an environment that was not helping you grow could do more harm than good. Parents can sometimes believe that they are correct in their life choices and want to push their beliefs on their children. Sometimes this could be good except other times it can drive their children to rebel and start to become hateful towards their parents.  


I grew up in a religious household. Growing up through my childhood I didn’t find anything wrong with it. It was not until I hit my late teenage years that I realized I didn’t agree with what my parents were teaching us. In my opinion it was full of hate and not something I believed was good to be spread out and into the world. Sitting down and telling my parents that I did not agree with what they were teaching not only me, but also my siblings was one of the scariest moments of my life. I did not know how they would react, and I expected the worst to happen.  


It was not as bad as I thought I was going to be. I thought there would be some screaming going on, however it was silence...then the look of utter disappointment. Seeing their upset faces made me feel like I let them down and I was a failure. It was then that I realized that it was something I hated causing. I guess talking to my parents and seeing the look of disappointment on their face led to this consequence: being terrified to disappoint even a mere stranger. One day I will be able to get over my obsessive people pleasing but as of now it is still something that I am struggling with overcoming.  

~Sara Ann  

JustGreenie - It is never easy carrying the idea that you have disappointed someone, especially when that someone is your family, a parent. Yes they want the best, but sometimes THEIR best isn’t who you are. That is why we are all unique in our own ways. It doesn’t mean that they have failed you or you have failed them, you both love each other but views and beliefs have changed.

You don’t need to please everyone, there is ONLY one person you need to please and that is YOU! Love yourself and let go. You are a beautiful soul!
2 years ago
AdamDragon​(dom male) - Parents grow up in a different time, and a much different society. Most don’t accept the changes and evolution of the world we live in. Eventually they start to see that your expression and your honesty to your self are what matters most. Just because someone doesn’t agree with older values and tradition doesn’t mean your bad in any way. It shows your growth and open mindedness. After all, who really counts and means the most to you…. Yourself ! 🌹🌹
2 years ago
Blondie​(sub female){Collared} - You give people power over you, they don't inherently have it. It is your right to say no or to set boundaries. It took me realizing that most of the time nothing bad really happens when you stand up for yourself. You might "disappoint " someone, but they will get over it, or they won't and move on from your life. That is really all they can do. If they get over it, great. If they can't and move on, then they weren't meant to be in your life.
The more you please yourself instead of others, the easier it becomes.
2 years ago
DelightfullyDominant​(dom male) - Ultimately, you have to be accepted for who you are and what you stand for. That includes acceptance by yourself. You may want to please, and compromises are normal. However, you cannot sacrifice who you are for someone and still end up being happy. We are happiest when we live true to who we are. You had the insight to know who you are and what is right and wrong. You had the courage to confront and communicate. You should not second guess that decision.
2 years ago

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