Last year I went fishing with Salvador Dali. He was using a dotted line. He caught every other fish.
Steven Wright
One of my 'rules' for myself so far on the Cage is that I do not actively seek out subs. Firstly I am sure that not everyone has such a rule for themselves and this leads to a lot of messages flooding inboxes. I would not get want to lost in the midst of those, nor get involved in any over the top peacocking to compete. I wrote enough detail about me on my profile that, I hope, people can generally understand both where I am coming from and where I intend to go to.
My intent was that, in their own time, people could come across me and without pressure review the kind of person I might be. To make up their own minds, and if they were interested, they could let me know. By and large, this has been my experience so far. Any communication outside of this is kept strictly friendly, trying to just get my ideas and personality across.
I'm beginning to have doubt about my strategy, or more accurately what I am using to attract interest - the bait, if you will. Though its the truth as well as I can understand it and myself, I'm wondering if its not conveying what I assumed it was. Many of those that contact me, not all of course but the majority certainly, seem to be ostensibly looking for someone that I am not. I try to assume initially that faults rest with me, but I wanted to throw the question out there - is this common? Is it just a case of people reaching out on the slim chance you meet some unexpressed yet critical need?
Inquiring minds need to know :)
