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Life of a Dom is also hard sometimes.

I am a well exprienced natural dom for 5+ years but sometimes, it's just hard to live in this lifestyle especially when you can't find somebody who's ready to submit to you and provide you with what you want while getting whatever they want as well (obviously).

On the other hand, when you go out looking for somebody then all people show you is hatred which is not at all acceptable then eventually they expect you to behave nicely to them and that's impossible, treat somebody nicely then expect the same.

I'm usually a well behaved dom in general but sometimes, people judge me as coming out to be "arrogant" or "rude" when I'm actually not.

I'm basically a person who believes in the term "equal rights, equal fights", so if someone says something disrespectful to me and behaves badly then don't expect me to listen to you, I'll backfire very well because that's how I've been brought up and my thinking goes.

I'm not really a person who will respect somebody when all they do is talk shit about me and expect me to listen, I hella won't, if you've been here longer than me then that's good for you, not for me, I have nothing to do with that.

Try to come out as being more "acceptable" first then expect me to respect.

(I'm sharing this as my first blog as I'll love to let out my thoughts and this seems like a good place).
3 years ago. June 21, 2020 at 11:34 PM

I am a well exprienced natural dom for 5+ years but sometimes, it's just hard to live in this lifestyle especially when you can't find somebody who's ready to submit to you and provide you with what you want while getting whatever they want as well (obviously).

On the other hand, when you go out looking for somebody then all people show you is hatred which is not at all acceptable then eventually they expect you to behave nicely to them and that's impossible, treat somebody nicely then expect the same.

I'm usually a well behaved dom in general but sometimes, people judge me as coming out to be "arrogant" or "rude" when I'm actually not.

I'm basically a person who believes in the term "equal rights, equal fights", so if someone says something disrespectful to me and behaves badly then don't expect me to listen to you, I'll backfire very well because that's how I've been brought up and my thinking goes.

I'm not really a person who will respect somebody when all they do is talk shit about me and expect me to listen, I won't, if you've been here longer than me then that's good for you, not for me, I have nothing to do with that.

Try to come out as being more "acceptable" first then expect me to respect.

(I'm sharing this as my first blog as I'll love to let out my thoughts and this seems like a good place).

Jack in the box -
This is a good place, thank you for sharing Mr Tushar , and welcome.
You have brought up some valid points.
3 years ago
Master Tushar​(dom male) - Thank you for the kind comment, Jack in the box, I appreciate it a lot :)
3 years ago
AphroditesKiss​(dom female) - Joining any new community is hard to do. And I completely understand where you are coming from. But you should also take a hard look at how you approached the community. Did you come in assuming because you're dominant that people would respect you as such? Or did you first take the time to get to know everyone as a person before asking or expecting that respect and acceptance?

When I first started out in the public scene and community of BDSM in San Francisco, CA of all places, I had to jump through hoops and prove my self before I was accepted. That is part of the this community. We want to make sure who ever we are talking to is first safe, and then educated. But most of all, are they respectful in how they approach new people. Take your time getting to know people. Don't try to rush anything.

I'm not saying you're not respectful or approaching correctly, I'm just saying there is always two sides to every coin.
Welcome,
AK~
3 years ago
Master Tushar​(dom male) - Yes, you're right, Dear AphroditesKiss, I also may have been wrong in some part of it but I personally think that the way I usually behave is respectful and I only say something bad or get offended when someone insults or disrespect me first (which is obvious).
Although, people do need to come out as being more accepting first then things can be a lot more easier for both the involved parties.

Thank you for your comment though, I appreciate it :)
3 years ago

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