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1 month ago. Sun 02 Jun 2019 02:44:52 AM IDT

It's official I've stopped looking. . . it's NOT because I found someone. (My story does not have the romantic ending.) 

 

It's because no one really cares. I have gotten three guys say that they love me and four guys swear that they are instantly drawn to me. . .  (it's all just fake. . . just words. I write words everyday. Never tell me you love, physically show me you love me, clean, buy me a house, get me a cat etc) 
However none of them know anything about me . . . my last name, my real picture (my FB profile pic is a cat on purpose), that I have mental or physical issues or that I try to help family.  (That is just from Words with Friends. . . I play the game not to meet old creepy guys who want me to paid them because they say they love me or for me to take care of their kids while they cheat on me.) 

 

On the fetish sites, the guys just want me to deny orgasm or tell them what to do. They don't care to get to know me, to build the connection that I need for a relationship. 

In the last four years, I have not truly been excited over talking to a guy for more than a day or too, because they find out I'm NOT about sex, and they are gone. 

I may not get a bot, but I get a brainless, careless scamming man which is just about the same. 

 

My heart is broken. My female parts are broken. Mentally I just want to focus on my writing (not worry about how I'm supposed to direct a horny man.)

 

At this point of my life, I am finally enjoying me. Writing, cooking, and cats are what make me happy.  

 

I will keep posting on my blog if an erotic moment inspires me, but until I hope you find your true partner and find that connection. 

1 month ago. Thu 30 May 2019 03:59:14 AM IDT

I am a writer. It's what I get out of the bed for. (I would give up sex and love to get my book published.) 

I have noticed that for everyone one guy to comment on these blog, three woman do. (First of all, thank you for reading and  Secondly, thank you again for taking the time to comment.)

However the guys that seem to message me. . . don't even read my profile. . . (They are on my hard limit list and still message me. . . Hard limits are just like deal breakers. . . It means if you are on the list, it will NOT happen!)

Next to a submission, I want my next guy to be a reader. I have even stated on my profile "I am seeking friends and readers." 

If you cannot read and understand my profile, then there is no way that you will get along with me. 

Intelligence is a turn on for me, and reading is where people get intelligence. 

If  you cannot read a profile, then please move on. 

1 month ago. Wed 29 May 2019 03:13:25 AM IDT

I need someone who gives me daily communication. . . 

I want a real conversation. . . not just what directions am I supposed to give to the sub. 

I am seeking a connection and committed relationship. 

I need someone who wants to learn about me. 

I need someone to want me for me and is interested in me. 

(I communicated with my ex for 3 months online. . . exchanging life stories, questions, writing stories together and to be honest I want and need that again.)

I want someone makes me excited for humanity again. 

Even if we are living together, I would want them to message me at lunch just to let me know that they are okay. 

The idea of Dominance and submission is second to communication. If you cannot communicate first, then dominating the sub will NOT work. 

If you are NOT to communicate each day with me, please move on. (NO CATFISH . . . be honest in your communication.) 

 

Note: I will not meet with someone until I have talked with them everyday for a week. 

1 month ago. Tue 28 May 2019 12:32:54 AM IDT

I need the extreme "subs or wanna be slaves" to stop messaging me. I am NOT seeking an online anything.  Please, darn it, read my entire profile before messaging me. 

I have this profile up and blog up to promote my rants and erotica writings.   This a direct quote from my profile "I'm just seeking friends and blog readers (followers)"

 

I was in a FLR (female led Relationship.) I think it was more micromanaging (my ex was horrible with money and getting the bills paid or budgeting food) than dominance sex. (However I did choose when we had sex 90% of the times, the other 10% he found my naughty spots.)
I am NOT an extreme dominant . . . I am NOT into humiliation or pain. (yes, I have my mood swings, but growling or yelling at someone does NOT turn me on. I will never deny a sub a meal for a punishment.) 

 

Please stop asking to be my "slave" or "sub" or that you know me with two lines. (especially if you do NOT live close, I will NOT do a long distance relationship. I tried it once and it did not work out.)
I am very complicated. I need to eventually meet someone in person and chat online daily.
They are driven by a desperate loneliness and want any dominant to fill in the hole of their life.
You need to learn about the other person. I am NOT just seeking to dominant someone. I want them to want me for me (not just my dominance). I want someone be not just my submissive but my boyfriend. . . This does NOT happen overnight. 

 

I have a bad compulsion to reply back to anyone who writes to me, even if they are idjits. (It's a bad habit, but I hate when I write to someone and they do not write back. If I took the time to write and show I am interested, at least take the time and tell me you're not interested so we can both move on.) If I tell you why I am not interested, please do NOT say you can change, just simply move on. 

1 month ago. Sun 19 May 2019 05:54:47 AM IDT

First of all, I'm trying not to rant so much, but lately so much has stomped my nerves . . . ranting is best (less violent) way I can get it out. 

I'm glad many agree on my rants, so I really don't feel alone. So thank you for the likes and comments, and even the messages. 

 

Anyway, back to the current rant. . . 

I am not looking for sex at the moment. This does NOT mean I will let off some random guy. I am demi-sexual, which means I need a submissive guy who is genuinely into me as I am into him. There has to be a connection and trust (even yes, love and affection) before I can physically touch him. However I cannot enjoy sex as orgasm for me are painful (and pain is a dealbreaker and turn off) 

Many guys just do NOT understand. . . I have not had sex in over 4 years and I have not fooled around in over a year. . . I am not looking for it as it is NOT worth the pain. (I have not found many guys worth a conversation, there is no way they are even worth the pain.) 

If I did find a decent guy, and we got in a committed relationship, I still expect something in return to even think of getting them, off. (because it's not fair that they get to enjoy a release and I get nothing. . . )

This is the biggest reason I haven't even tried to look. 

I am sick of random men who instant think I am young and horny. They get so surprised when I say I am not interested in sex. . . (as if they have a cock of gold, whatever.) 

I even have some say they are not interested in it, and yet when I try to talk about something else. . . . they block me, or stop talking. (Not interested my big ass. . .  LOL) 

 

I've had a hard time just making friends because even guys who claim to just be friends. . . get in that horny zone, sooner or later. 

 

I am thinking I need to get asexual friends. 

 

I've been through so much this week. . . and yet I just keep getting people into sex. 

Best thing this week is that I got a compliment that my erotic writing is better than the author from 50 Shades of Gray. (I appreciate the comment, but she is published and I am not.)

2 months ago. Thu 16 May 2019 03:03:25 AM IDT

It I know this is personal, but I am trying to find people to under me and what I am going through. (I also want people to know why I am so depressed and cranky. I do believe that sex puts endorphins that create a moment of relief and possible contentment. I wouldn’t say direct happiness, because sex to me is more forced, anxiety and at times very awkward. I understand why people drink first. I feel that sex with someone is the ultimate connection with them. It’s like fitting puzzle pieces together. It’s even harder to fit people together with their kinks matching.)

I have not had what I feel is sex in over 4 years. . . (when a guy penetrates, grunts and is done is NOT sex. It’s greedy if only the guy gets to get off. Or hand jobs in a car at the end of the date is not sex either, it’s just a teasing, quick release . . . it’s like a pec on the cheek instead of a kiss on the lips.)
 There better be turning me on, LOTS of foreplay and I better orgasm three times for the guy’s one orgasm. The thing is when I orgasm I really get wet, and I do NOT need lube. (A guy will NEVER penetrate me without me getting wet first. If I am not wet, then I am not into them. Kissing, making out, grinding, is huge for me.)

Anyway, I have not had sex in four years.  (I had dated and was in a half-ass relationship with a guy over my age limit and he tried but only complained about back pain, which was good because I was cramping.)

Anyway. . . I have fibroids and endometisos (both are female issues that are in the pelvic area.) However whenever I try to orgasm, I end up cramping for around days (and I have not found a man or woman worth the pain as pain is a turn off for me. When I am pain, I am very grouchy, even my own family calls me the bear.)
Vanilla or kink, it makes dating for me very hard as most people expect sex. (I have had people say that they are not looking for sex, but once they read my blogs or get in to the perverted mode, that all gets thrown out the window.  Please just be honest, even I enjoy sex with the right guy and I’m not in pain.)

 

The problem is even the other day, I was stressed, and I was trying to get some release . . . I tried to get in a frisky mode and get myself off. I know a few spot in which once I am in a naughty mode, I can quickly get off just by rubbing that perfect spot (which men never seem to find. LOL). I forced my feeling simply to get release, and I guess I was just too greedy. I had hit that magical spot and felt the my pussy tighten. . . you know that moment where your body gets all tense just as the orgasm builds the few moments just before you explode . . .  and my caves got extremely tight just before a charly-horse and that bad tension went up both legs. . . my thigh muscles were solid and painful. Then when it was supposed to hit orgasm. . .  it felt like a pounding lighting went down my legs and up my back at the same time. The pain was so intense that I could barely breathe. I had no release just pain.

I have told several doctor that I have issues with painful sex and they just do NOT care. . .

I try to write about this, but at times erotica is just a huge tease. (It’s like look what I can’t do.)

I feel like a failure because my body does NOT work right.

Majority of the subs on these sites just think the only way to satisfy a dominant is sexual. I just want a heterosexual guy who is submissive and into me (not just because I am dominant, but because they really like me and that we have a connection. Or at least a reading friend (female or male) who I can talk about writing, sports, cooking or cats with.) Why is this so hard?

2 months ago. Wed 15 May 2019 02:27:47 AM IDT

I have always had a very vivid imagination. . . sexually it is not any different. 

 

Since I was told about my health issues (experiencing pain with orgasms). . . I realized that physical sex was off the table.
(This makes find a real relationship vanilla or dom-sub, difficult as 95% of relationships have some kind of physical element. I kind of have given up on seeking love, seek, or any connection other than just friends. Finding asexual has been very hard for me.)

Anyway. . . I write out my fantasies. . . weather is it's from tying a guy down, deny his orgasm until he gives me what I want. . . or vampire or ghost sex. . . girl on girl etc. (I have learned that i cannot write out my limits.) 

I am just wondering if I should keep posting or get them published?

 

(Note: I also write paranormal and horror as it is not something I cannot do in real life. So I also write about sex.) 

 

 

 

2 months ago. Mon 13 May 2019 03:50:14 AM IDT

I have written this blog probably three times now. . . (A part of me wonders why am I writing if no one cares to read that damn thing. . . sighs)

I will do something most people do not do. . . admit my real age. I am 36. I am NOT a baby boomer, and I am NOT a millennial. I think my generation was closer to generation X if I look up things.

Anyway, age should equal experiences and self-discovering. . .

If you are 21, you have not seen much of real world. . . a high school relationship is not one like living together where you both work and have to find time for each other. (My suggestion travel, go to college, experiment with the same and opposite sexes. . . figure out who you are and what you want . . . what really makes you happy. For example, writing, cooking, cats, cuddling makes me happier than the best sexual experience ever did.)

I did not know who I was until I was at least 30. I had a handful of boyfriends (not all of them I was naughty with either, some I just dated. However I figured out who I wanted through the experiences, and yes not all of the experiences were good. . . I have been cheated on, lied to, and unsupported. I have also been praised, cuddled with, and loved.)

As for those who are over 50 who keep hitting on me (most when playing words with friends). I am NOT seeking older men! They want a younger woman because they instantly think they are instantly horny or they would have energy to take care of their kids. (or they are using a fake “catfish” romance to scam money out of the desperate lonely women. I have no extra money, if I did I would have a cat, not a man and for those who are scamming, may your computers get a virus.)
I cannot have kids and I do NOT want kids. I am NOT a kid person. My friends, with kids, and I barely talk, and I even take off kids type ads off my computer. (I’m burnt out and got no credit for kids I did help raise when I lost my teenage years.)
As for the romance and marriage thing, I really do NOT think it’s for me. No one within my age limit (30-39, maybe 25-30 or 40-45 if truly connected) wants to take the time and work on a genuine connection, then we work at things one day at a time.
 Most people my age are too busy working because there is very little job security. (but I’m stopping the politics)

 

I tried dating a few guys in their late 40’s and they were stuck in their ways and cranky. We also hardly ever agreed on anything. We never saw eye to eye.


I also get the older guys who treat me like a daughter . . . damn it I’m a dominant, and I do NOT need to your weird old-guy wisdom. (Do not tell me I need to clean your house or cook you food as you are the man. . . or that I am writing too much.)
I have three parents that are alive and if I want them chew me out, I would start a fight with them. I do NOT need a man my parents’ age in my life.  (Most of them have been married and are usually divorced or widowed with kids. . . by the way with divorce, who divorced who and why? And again I am NOT into kids!)
On my naughty pages, I am here for blogging and erotica stories (which I think I am going to collect and get publisher).  I do not mind a chat, but I don’t even writing about too young of men or older men.
On words with friends, I am just there to simply play a word game of scrabble to keep my brain fresh. They say that words games help vocabulary and writing skills. (I am not there to make friends my parents age. However I wish to have a few my own age that see things similar to me.)

 

Age may be a just a number to random people, but it’s more than just that too me.  (At least respect that when I say I am not interested.)

2 months ago. Mon 13 May 2019 12:19:52 AM IDT

Connection

 

I kind of have stopped looking for a submissive boyfriend because no one wants a connection . . . they just want to a be a faceless “slave” (I hate that term). . . they bend backward claiming to sacrifice themselves to make their “doms” happy.  (Or they want to sexual satisfy their dom and go home. . .)

To me it is NOT like that.

Submissive to me is someone who understand that I am in control: I like to micromanage. They have faith in me that I will use their money and asset in a responsible way. I will pay the bills, I will make the menu (and yes I do ask what are their favorite meals? etc.) I want both side to be satisfied.
(Notice: I do not mention anything sexually. I cannot enjoy sex because of pain. Best way to describe this, but it’s like someone punching me in the pelvis after I orgasm and then add a charly-horse to my thighs and pelvis for days after the orgasm. No one is worth that pain, and pain to be is instant turn off)

I want someone who within my age limit (that is a blog on its own), not into kids, at least okay with cat, but totally into me (lets me be into them. If it is not a two way street then it will not work. I do NOT mean submission, I mean interest and connection. )

Connection to me . . . someone who understand I will have more bad days than good days. They need to learn about me (more than 160 characters in a texts) . . . they need to know if they can help me on my bad days or simply let me be. I have health issues and mental issues and even though I am working on them. . . it’s a day by day thing. Some days I may seem more cheerful than others, do not expect it the next day.
 I am very honest, except if I am say I am “ok or fine.” Ok usually only means, either the day was boring, or my writing or my cooking wasn’t as adventurous as I wanted. Fine never means fine. . . it’s now I say fine, if I sigh, I have a chaos and drama in my head, but it’s so tangle I can’t get it out or I feel you are just asking because you feel you have to, but don’t really care. If I growl when I say I’m fine, then I’m mad at something and it’s best that you leave it at that or I will yell at you for nothing.  If I know you are not interested in my day, I will not tell you.  (I really want someone interested in and excited about me. I want a possible submissive boyfriend to have a permanent desire or drive for me.)
I’m a writer, so I want fellow writer or at least a reader. (If you do NOT read my blogs and profile, there will be no true connection between us. I am dominant writer. I am 36 years and within the last 16 years, I have figured out this. )
He has to understand I help out my family, so if it’s between him and my family, my family comes first as they can handle my health issues and mental issues better than most.

 

My ex and I wrote letter, wrote stories, texted, talked on the phone three months even before we met and we were just eight miles from each other.

In 2017, I had just over dozen one time dates and probably two dozen no shows. I am knew I had rushed things. . .  Mid 2018, I just stopped looking as majority of guy claim they want to submit, but they just want a reverse version of 50 shades. (Come home from work and get tied up. . . it’s NOT like that with me.)

I will NOT rush things. I actually want to build something. However that is if the fates want me to have someone there has be a connection and there has to be a mutual feelings on body sides. I am not just looking for a submissive. I want my next guy to be a submissive boyfriend for long term. . . possible marriage like submissive husband.

I will not agree to a date with just one day of chat.
I want to chat with someone daily. They need to see the good and bad.

2 months ago. Sun 12 May 2019 04:21:23 AM IDT

I'm so sick of people not reading my entire profile.

I have an age limit, (25 to 45) and yes I'm sticking to it.

I'm not just looking for a submissive boyfriend but a soulmate that I truly connect with. Someone who gets me and has similar views and interests. 

I am a BBW (I've mentioned this in my blog and profile. If you are not into a bigger girl then shut your pie hole and walk away. Do not get my pic and ghost me or block me without sending me yours. You know which jerks you are. I'm a writer so I don't have my face on my profile. I will NOT send pics without getting one first. You can blame the Inconsiderate jerks who block me once I send a pic.) 

I had a good day and if that idiot blocked me, its his lost not mine. 




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