I guess you all have been burned off, huh..?

I guess you all have been burned off, huh..?

Meja • Dec 15, 2018

Well, this is my first post after joining.. I was just like, should I, or should I not. But I guess I need to write it off me. I'm fairly new. Almost new. I was just looking down the profiles. Not much to think. You know, just strolling along. Until you bump into a profile you can't jump over. Where you don't know, why you react differently. There's just something about them. Not looks. Not words. Just. Something. This one was new. Too. Just talking. Nice and polite. Still that feeling of this one's different. But you don't know why. I know now, you shouldn't accept them for you to call them master without deserving it. But I took it more like, one prefers to be called sir another something else. Do you really have to be that strict?

It was all nice and dandy, I sent him my pictures. No nudes just normal. I know I'm pretty. I'm just a plus size. UK 18. Nothing gross. Well portioned. Still pretty. Besides, I'm on my way to gym. I said so. On the other hand, I'm a curvy. So I'll never be the other way and I'm ok with it. But, I said it before my pictures. It seems ok. He made a disappearance act. I asked politely after some days. No answer.
The first question to me was, wether I worked. I found it peculiar, especially as he's from another country. But I said yes as I am.
I'm not a fool, if it come down to it. So no I wouldn't send money.
I'm not the type of person who dwells. But why do we get so attached here?
It seemed like real. Like he wanted something. Really. So why do I sit, and wait, well knowing. I know I won't hear anything. Why is it hard to let go? I thought. There was something. Something our of the normal. Somewhere. What stroke me most was the sincerity. And the warmth. And care. Is that it? I don't know.
Thoughts?
Have you experienced this?
He's probably gonna see this now, but I don't care.. I'm real. Compared to others.. How can anyone just. Sacrifice a connection?
A disapointed sad Meja

Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} • Dec 15, 2018

It is difficult to find someone you’re attracted to and that isn’t reciprocated. I’m not saying physically or anything. Just sometimes there’s a base attraction. But it doesn’t always go both ways. Somewhere along the way it sounds like he had a disconnect.

Try not to dwell on it. Ghosting is an awful thing to have happen to you, but it happens so get used to it. It would be nice if people would just say what they mean. Nobody likes rejection, and I think people just don’t want to be the ones doing the rejecting so they don’t look bad. But the thing is, not everyone feels the same chemistry. It’s silly to think everyone you’re attracted to will be attracted to you.

Just move on, continue getting to know people, and don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Get to know different people, talk to lots of them, don’t get hung up on one person and then block everyone else out of your life. You end up eating a lot of crow that way.

But this site will have ghosts...it sucks....so just try not to do it to others, and expect it to happen to you.

Meja • Dec 15, 2018

Yes I guess youre right. I'd always decline politely and make sure it's not personal. But that's just me. What got me though is he, before the pictures, kinda commit a bit by the demands of calling him Master. I took it with a grain salt, like I said, but it was still more like serious

Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} • Dec 15, 2018

Yeah that’s the first red flag. No Master or Dom worth his salt will have you call him by his chosen title from the jump. If you meet someone who demands your submission or demands you call him by a title immediately, take that as a huge warning sign.

And be careful sending photos, nudes or not. I had a terrible experience with that when I was new here. Predators abound, keep your eyes open and trust your gut. And if you’re not sure, find someone you trust, another sub (preferably one who has been around for a while), perhaps a trustworthy Dom (again, preferably one who has been around a while), and ask about the person. If they are truly predatory, there’s a very good chance they already have a reputation around here.

Meja • Dec 15, 2018

I took it as oh, we're all having different titles.. Just like miss, or Mr.. Wasn't really sure.. As he seemed so sincere. Should he be reported?
He got several normal pictures.
And I know I'm not ugly. Many say I'm pretty. Then what do you do, if a Dom wants pictures? As I've seen many do, to prove you're not fake.
He didn't demand submission, definitely not.

Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} • Dec 15, 2018

I don’t think this is a case of him needing to be reported. Just a case of you two not meshing. I’m not denying that you’re pretty, you seem to be a little preoccupied with it but I’m sure you are. Looks aren’t everything to everyone. Something seems to just not have been clicking for him.

MasterBear​(other butch) • Dec 15, 2018

Im reading along here and this thought strick me:


I was struck when you wrote:

"Nothing gross"


As someone that would be considered "gross" I have this to say:

Don't let your body issues stop you from being a powerful you.

I'm BBW my love is a BBW

There are just as many D types that prefer a bigger. Ody as there are ones that prefer a smaller one.

You deserve the best at every size.

Devil's damsel​(sub female){HandsomeDe} • Dec 15, 2018

@MasterBear

The same thing stuck out to me too.

Looks, size, weight, body shape....most of the time they’re all relative.

As a fellow BBW (gah I really hate that term lol), I’ve actually been very pleasantly surprised at how many people find my size and shape not only attractive but preferable. Yes I know I’m not for everyone, but I don’t want everyone B)

If the person you’re talking to or if you are mostly hung up on physical things, you’re really going to miss out on knowing a lot of great people. But hey you do you.

dollMaker​(dom male) • Dec 15, 2018

You don't give them. Its as simple as that.

If you want to provide proof, or ask for proof, my suggestion, either way, is get them to record an audio on here, immediately after they or you give them a set of words to record. This must be done within a few minutes, so they must do it, or not, and if they won't I would walk. The audio is up briefly so it can be listened to and then deleted. I did that once and it was a simple way to find out if the person I was talking to was who they claimed to be. They were.

Sharing pictures comes later, if both parties feel comfortable to do it. Problem is you supply pictures and who knows where those might end up, some porn site or worse.

SirHanz​(dom male){Minx} • Dec 15, 2018

I can't add much to what has already been said. And I agree with all of it. All I can say is not to let one bad apple turn you away from something you want. Learn, be wiser and stronger.
Best wishes.