@SirPain(dom male), I agree with you, I think finding someone is a fantasy. However, I find Dom males can be a little entitled in their attitudes. The more desperate ones lay it on at the beginning that age, location, or looks should not be dealbreakers for me. I disagree. I prefer to be single than to be with a Dom male who does not met my basic desires. To me, kink is the cherry on top, not the foundation. I would be much more satisfied with an intelligent vanilla who can make me laugh than the kinkiest male whom I don't revere.