Juggling Being a Single Mom with Being a Middle

Juggling Being a Single Mom with Being a Middle

Manda Panda​(sub female) • Aug 15, 2019

So I'm a 37 year-old mom of 3 teen girls and a tween boy. I'm also a middle, identifying around the age of 14 or 15. My Daddy is very understanding of my being a mother, as well as being his little girl. In fact, he insists that my kids and my time with them come before us as a DD/lg couple, which honestly is one of the sweetest things ever.
Anyway, is there any other littles here juggling being a little with being a mom?
How do you do it? How do you indulge your little without shirking your parental responsibilities, and vice versa, how do you not lose your little amongst your parental responsibilities?

Thank you!
Ruby😻

Little momma​(sub female) • Aug 15, 2019

Hi Ruby! Being a single mom is tough on it's own let alone trying to mix with any kind of relationship. I have a teenager. My daughter only sees the strong single mother side while Daddy sees all sides.

I take "me time" every day. It may not be until after my kiddo is in bed but I make sure I get time. Sometimes I wake up early or go to bed later than usual but I ALWAYS make some time each day without exception. I've even been known to "act like a kid" when I'm out with my daughter. We laugh, act silly, and enjoy our time together and my babygirl side gets the chance to play a little as well.

CapnRick​(dom male) • Aug 15, 2019

You might adopt a mantra I repeat often with subs/Littles who have family obligations --which is most , it seems

The mantra is "Family Always First". If your Daddy repeats that whenever your kids need your attention, you might be able to feel less torn between your two needs.

Sure, it always takes patience in the work-arounds...that is part of the challenge!

Little Momma's post is some smart advice, too --about combining things when possible

Manda Panda​(sub female) • Aug 15, 2019

The funny thing is my oldest daughter (16) is a little too. She uses it as a coping mechanism for her anxiety. I've told her I'm a middle, and she was like "Okay, so?" 😂.
I feel like when I do stuff with my kids, it's helping my middle come out. We play games, paint our nails, do our makeup, laugh, joke and just have fun.
My problem comes in when it's time to be mom again, and they won't listen to me. Especially this summer while I was working and they stayed home alone. They kinda cleaned when I asked, but most of the time, they didn't. Ugh!
Okay, rant over. Lol

How do you guys handle the "accessories" of being a little around your kids? Like stuffies, little spaces, blankies etc? My middle is a geek, and i like to collect Funko Pop figures, toys that pertain to one of my fandoms. I also have a pen and notebook collection. I love to do crafts, whether it's little kid aged or older.

I'm also trying to think of ways to let my middle out more. Like geeky clothes and accessories (I have Sailor Moon and Snow White leggings, jewelry, etc).

Thanks for all the advice so far,
Ruby😻

Little momma​(sub female) • Aug 15, 2019

I have a stuffie I sleep with. I keep it in plain sight on my bed. I tell my daughter the truth; I LIKE it.

As for switching to mom, I have a set cleaning schedule, a cooking rotation, that kind of thing. I sat down and discussed my expectations as mom along with the consequences of not meeting expectations. That way there was no surprise when, for instance, laundry wasn't done and my kid was grounded. She knew what was going to happen as she told me laundry wasn't waiting to be folded on my bed. (She hates folding so I do that part.)

And the hardest part, see any consequences through to the bitter end...even if they are on good behavior. It will help establish the difference between mom and hanging out buddy.

MasterBear​(other butch) • Aug 16, 2019

I love reading about balance! Great post !!