Kink lifestyle attracts many bullshiters just looking for pussy

CrimsonRose • Sep 25, 2019

As a switch I have been approached by both Dom and sub males, I follow the rule if it is blank or almost blank I don't respond. There is a really good post about this topic on WADom4U's blog. If I feel as if they are new, then I will copy and paste that blog in a message to them. Otherwise I just ignore, or if they are persistent block them.

Thank you for your post here.

No Body​(dom male) • Sep 26, 2019

I had had a couple of subs in my day and a lot of so called subs online. I am talking about those who say they are subs but when you meet in r/l they are nothing like their picture or what they said there were while texting you. I also this is a guy thing also. Being yelled at by friends because some guy they went to meet still lives with mom and dad or some woman who said she was 145 and have the picture posted from ten years back turn out to be well past 200 is funny as hell.

Still being played is just something that happens to us all and we have to deal with the stupid things humans will do because they suck and not in a good way. Honesty is a rare thing in our world and it is a shame that it is. Still as it has been said you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince/princess. Me I just smack them on the ass on the first meet. What she does after tells me if she is real or not. As in the case of my wife I smacked her ass and she bent over and told me I could do better than that.

subslv4u​(sub male){No but I m} • Sep 26, 2019

I know what i want, it's that i get a lot of bull shit from Dom's that want a specific kind of sub? just saying..

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) • Sep 26, 2019

"I think that it can be generally recognised the we males are more predatory in our mate hunting activities "
Red flag much

MsEbonyAngela​(dom female){Looking to} • Sep 28, 2019

subslv4u they also know what they want so if you're not flexible or moldable you get the results you have

TranquilStorm • Sep 28, 2019

I am surprised this topic needs addressing since it is more or (hopefully on this site less) par for the course. It is a kink-site so there are bound to be opportunistic soldiers of fortune that do not bother with details (like actually reading the profile of the person they message) and hope statistics runs its merry course. If blocking non-premiums or ignoring no-pic people takes off some of the burden to sift through decent messages, then that's the way to go. Personally I have stopped caring about the profile pic years ago and have come to see it as a first recognition/reward to share if there is enough sympathy.

Snorlax​(sub male) • Oct 10, 2019

You almost have to expect male desperation in any form social connection

LOCKANKEYED​(neither male) • Oct 10, 2019

I see what seems like alot of horny guys who have seen too much porn looking for things they have no or little experience in because as a fantasy it looks inviting. 20 or 30 year old guys offering a list as long as their entire ad with little or no experience and alot of ideas have their whole life in front of them and don't realize to a real Dominant, this could be forever, not just until they realize what they're expected to give up to please rather than get.
I'm 66, OMG thats OLD right? I've been doing this most of my life, I'm not old, I'm experienced and still willing to submit and experience more. when dominant women go through the bullshit of fantasy players and wanna-be's and they realize these wanna-be's don't want an "old" dominant, they want young and sexy and SEX!... maybe they will realize that you CAN teach an old dog new tricks maybe he already knows what you want him to, but you can't make a puppy do anything they don't want to do.
sorry I'm rambling on. There is alot more wanna be's than there are there are REAL dominants who want to be a dominant, by her own rules and limits. a GOOD submissive is as difficult to find as a GOOD dom. To all you REAL dominants, by the time you get tired of playing around with the youngsters and wanna be's you're gonna realize YOU'VE wasted your best years searching, you've become too old for the younger generation to care.
Opinions are like assholes. This is mine. just a thought!

GvS​(other male) • Oct 10, 2019

For persons of every stripe dealing with this:
The block button is your friend. You do not owe anyone " at least the courtesy of a reply". Sending such a message is rude to start with, and trying to weaponize ettiquette tells you all you need to know.
These people are not wolves at your door, they are bugs on your windshield.

Bigandtall​(other male) • Oct 11, 2019

I can't speak for every male, but many of us are not looking for "pussy"! I myself would like a long-term relationship/ my best friend for life. I want some meaning. The sexual and kink are wonderful it is important to have a connection.