MissBonnie(dom female){oz}
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4 years ago •
Feb 26, 2020
thinker wrote: how do you train for this? Is there a place to sign up for classes etc. Is hard in states like Montana
as MasterBear nothing makes up for REAL TIME live people in the community! to find them just google BDSM and your nearest large town or capital. Join sites and network, ask whos local to you..join munch groups too! if there isn't one, create your own with who you find. But you can also learn some skills online. I recommend if you cant learn face to face, learn via online as much as can and then plan to attend a convention over multiple day in your nearest place. Stay a few days and sign up for every thing you can...multi skill all at once! or find an online mentor (or a few) that will happily share skills with you via cam There loads and loads of text resources, free down PDFs and video reference online for those in more remote parts of the world. Most of these are free to use, some are paid for resources. Read you head off, then read more again! Never trust just one source of information on one topic (same goes from mentors and face to face interaction). Look for articles that are supported by comments, not static web pages. Its easy to post "how to" anything and have the information appear right with no community replies. Look for resources that have an online community behind them. |
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Island girl(sub female){Yes owned.}
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
I did a quick search and found these possibilities for you. I've lived in Maine and Hawaii primarily so I'm a little fuzzy on locations in Montana:
https://dungeons.fetishclubsreviews.org/mt-clubs.html http://findamunch.com/montana/ Hopefully, these can get you started! |
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DrWakko
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
There are kinky people everywhere... if you can't find a kink event in your area make one. You might have to travel for a few hours to go to an event, but its worth it.
Dom/sub, Master/slave, TPE are all relationship types. Play such as being tied up and spanked are play roles like Top/bottom or Sadist/masochist. You don't have to have to be on one side of the slash to play and you can be in a relationship and never play. This seems to get a little blurred in cyber relationships (from what I've seen). |
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WolfeHammer
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
Island girl wrote: Meg, I found your comment very interesting. If you are starting out or in the negotiation phase of a possible relationship or scene, this absolutely applies. For someone already in a 24/7 TPE relationship, it doesn't matter unless it was previously agreed upon. A slave can respectfully request that their master/mistress play with them in a certain way, however, whether or not that happens is entirely up to the Dom/me in question. That is how my life is ruled, and after reading your post, I had to remind myself of that.
This is a HUGE reminder for those that think that they want this type of lifestyle. In my life, how I/we play in our relationship is entirely up to Master. No two D/s relationships are exactly the same. I have no say. We play according to His desires and I do my best to make His desires mine. No, it isn't always easy. I am His service slave, and our relationship is primarily about SUBMISSION. Now, if I find that I have another kink that I discover, which happened recently, (I have a thing for block and tackle hardware which I think translates to suspension bondage but I'm not sure...) I let Him know. He knows how to use rope and uses it when He wants to. For now, anyway, He prefers to use commands to hold me in place rather than bondage because it puts the onus on me to obey Him. I can guess why He is doing this, to increase/improve my obedience, or, He just may enjoy putting me in the double-blind of whether to obey or react. Either way, it doesn't matter. A mind fuck is a mind fuck and it's all His. He knows what He wants from me and it is His decision how we get there. So do you have a master/slave relationship or a Dom/sub relationship as I have seen these two as different relationships in the way they work. As I am in a Dom/sub one yes I get my needs filled but my sub also gets hers and it isn't just all about my needs. But that might just be how we work as we try to keep a free flow. |
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Meg(dom female){NotLooking}
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
Island girl wrote: Meg, I found your comment very interesting. If you are starting out or in the negotiation phase of a possible relationship or scene, this absolutely applies.
I was mostly answering from the point of a new relationship. I can't see why anyone would be in a relationship already where this behaviour occurs, unless that's specifically what you're into. Island girl wrote: (I have a thing for block and tackle hardware which I think translates to suspension bondage but I'm not sure...)
What is block and tackle hardware? Sounds interesting. |
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GaigeFox(dom male){Looking}
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
Same MasterBear wrote: I love Dom/Domme training.
Its critical. We all started out not knowing anything. The more closed a person is to learning- They less they know - the bigger the egos- I love learning new stuff- my favorite words are - I don't know, would you teach me? And I've been doing this for 19 years. I am so much in the same way. I would never tell someone that "I know what I'm doing" or "don't worry, I've done this before" when they clearly haven't a clue what a flogger is for xxx sakes (that's another story, for another day) I've been "into" BDSM for a long time (since I was a kid, heh, a long story there), but only in the last year maybe two have I physically gotten involved in the scene. I love trying new things and more importantly "experiences" that I can take with me on my journey The point here is that like all relationships, Dom and sub are BOTH give-and-take and should be respected as such. If i had a wife, hubby GF or whatever, wouldn't it be better if we both understood our boundaries and what we can accomplish together as both either a couple or as individuals? And lastly Meg is 100% right on all accounts, you took the words right out of my mouth on that one On that note, let's all just try to be safe out there and not rush anything, someone who can't wait just isn't worth it Good vibes to you all, peace Gaige |
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MasterBear(other butch)
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4 years ago •
Feb 27, 2020
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