In a polyamorous relationship
I am a 54 year old lifestyle Domina practicing my craft in (outer suburb) Melbourne Australia. I currently own my Darlin 0z [for 23+ years.] I have been actively involved in my chosen lifestyle for over 30 plus years face to face and have been active for 20 years online and ran my Femdom ONLY site CollarNcuffs for 16 years (not for profit. Education based). My gawd I'm a dinosaur! During those years I've also been known by "DommeBon"
Being cognizant that Femdom may take many forms, I enjoy domination ranging from the gentle to the severe. It is a thrill for me when a submissive willingly hands the reins over to me so that I control his mind and spirit along with his body, and recognizing that doing so is a singular expression of trust in me, I take such a responsibility seriously. The difficult task of truly relinquishing one's free will to me can yield rewarding results, cathartic and illuminating, and I find particular pleasure in stripping away the defenses and self-conceptions [and deceptions] that cloak the inner being, so that my submissive and I may together explore the uncharted depths of his submission.
While some men need only to be reminded that submission is an essential aspect of their inner nature, a dynamic which can be explored without significant pain, I am certainly willing and able to utilize a variety of implements of correction and rigorous procedures to deal with naughty boys and recalcitrant males who require firm behavior modification. My preferred implements for such "corrections" are leather straps and whips that have been made for me according to my exacting specifications.
As a disciplinarian I am, fair but firm, and I do possess the techniques and skills required to bring my submissive to the limit of endurance.
However I also enjoy more sensual, less intense forms of corporal play which, rather than being "punishment"[for correction] will leave my submissive relaxed and euphoric. I am quite capable of doing both.
While I respect limits, if my submissive[s] wishes to overcome and transcend some of their limitations will find me to be empathetic and yet willing to push those limits if it is desired and appropriate.
I am always looking for real life subs or slaves, gender not important, bisexuality welcomed. I am NOT seeking a life partner or another live in partner, I have one of those whom I adore and love with all my heart that meets all my needs. I do how ever seek variety and play toys that I treat like library books, enjoyed and put back on the shelf for others to lend.
I ONLY practice ethical poly if you are partnered, I'm not your person. Preferred: those that play well with others F/fm F/mm but are ONLY interested in a Femdom Dynamic. Weight and looks do not enter into my choices, neither does experience. I am turned on by the person you are inside. I am some what apposed to to submissives under 30 not personal. I just like my play partners older than my Adult children!
I am polite and considerate, and I do expect the same of those who contact me. .. I am always open to friendship.
I'm pretty open to most things, BDSM has always been a part of me. I have filled out the limits here but its rather oddly set out and doesnt allow much room for others answers, please ask if your unsure. I have (pretty much) the normal limits most others have, no scat or dead anything hangups, blood is tolerated from my fluid bonded play partners. PIV is only with ethical poly partners but I will fluid exchange with established partners. Apart from that my limits are rather flexible and my interests varied. My main interests lay in bondage and restraint (in several mediums), punishment etc (from several varied sources) I'm open to being questioned if you want more info.
I do not micro manage. I need my subs to still function without me for our mutual benefit. To operate within my best and their best interests, not wait for directions. In other words I need a proactive submissive not a reactive one! In short if I want you to be or act differently, THEN I will inform/instruct/correct you. If you need constant guidance over the smallest of details...like permission to do the small detail when not in scene, then I'm not your ideal match.
I also have no interest PERSONALLY in littles (not saying its wrong, just wrong for me) The dynamic doesn't work for me when it comes to play. This should not be interrupted that I have a dislike for those that do practice.
I'm also going to throw in here as it is often misunderstood, I'm Femdom ONLY, in short that means (I'm the reverse of Maledom) I don't 'do' mixed BDSM. I do not switch and will not play with those that do. I have no interest in switching or with those that do/ I am STRICTLY F/mf dynamic (phew thank gawd that's over with)
** Short term disclaimer: I don't want to write this but at present I'm on hitaias when it comes to play with others outside my ethical poly arrangement. I was just asked why? I currently do not have the time to spread around.
**is the black and white pic me? Yes it is, but it is a VERY VERY old one, any coloured pics are more recent within the last 12 months**
The black and white has been my avatar for years. I have no objection to posting more current images (as I do else where on several sites), I just like to keep my avatar consistent. Will I send you a current image? Yes, if our conversation/interaction warrants it. I will NOT send pictures just because you asked for one.
I also tend to not answer BONDS but I am always open to inbox messages. (I believe I cannot turn off bonds without disabling msgs)