Bondage

Bondage

Fetishbob​(sub male) • Nov 19, 2017

How do I find someone in my area that is interested in the same fetish as myself

SpennyGG​(sub male) • Nov 20, 2017

I've found one of the best things to do is to try and get in touch with your local fetish community, or whichever is nearest to you if your town doesn't have an active one.

If it doesn't directly lead to a fetish partner at least it kinda puts you out there and gets you attention. You can make friends, eventually meet people through other people and build a reputation.

Good advice but

jamesecooper1684​(sub male) • Nov 20, 2017

How do you find that community,and how do you know they are legitimate?

Villanelle​(staff) • Nov 20, 2017

I agree with Spenny. Find a local group and see if they have a website with an events calendar. Perhaps they have bondage demos or classes that you could attend. I also recommend using our personals area to see if you can find a match in your area. We're getting loads of new members every day so hopefully you can at least meet some fellow bondage enthusiasts near by who can advise you.

SpennyGG​(sub male) • Nov 22, 2017

I found my local community through Fetlife. That site has a pretty well populated list of events and members in your area that can be helpful in meeting people locally.

Re: Good advice but

myfairlady57​(sub female) • Nov 30, 2017

Try and check out fetlife then search for your area you will find it there

Mistress Ann​(dom female) • Dec 1, 2017

I been on fetlife before, and to be honest, there is a lot of fakes on that site. And then you have a ton of people there who only want to get off....i avoid that site as much as possible due to the game players on it

myfairlady57​(sub female) • Dec 1, 2017

It is bad that so many fakes and scammers out there. I know alt.com is full with fake people

Aden Figg​(dom male){BDE} • Dec 1, 2017

Good rule of thumb is that if you can only see the appealing side of someone or something, they're probably fake.

SirPain​(dom male) • Dec 5, 2017

I've been on Fetlife for several years and I know from past personal experience that if I want to go to a new area and look for fetish events that I can use the events tab of Fetlife and find several different events in the area with names and profiles on Fetlife that will allow me to talk (by messaging) with the people in charge of the event.

The one event I primarily look for is a munch. This is not a BDSM event, but is a gathering of like minded people getting together, usually in a vanilla setting, to meet one another and compare kinks or where to find those kinks.