Nipple play

Nipple play

dunyasha​(switch female) • May 29, 2020

I met up with an old friend earlier this week, we messed around and it was a lot of fun. It was my first irl experience as a sub and he’s new to being a dom so it was sorta cute, he kept checking to make sure I was okay n comfy, good for a start.

But he like Went In on my nipples, and I enjoy nipple play but I’m not too good at being vocal (which I know, need to work on that bc it’s sorta crucial to the dynamic) and at points it Fucking Hurt but pain is good so my brain gets turned to mush and I just whine instead of telling him to be gentler. But like 4 days later my boob has a yellow bruise and my nip is scabbed and i don’t know what aftercare to do to help it?
I already told him we have to be gentler next time at least with my nips but do/did any other subs have difficulty asking/telling their doms if they need something gentler or just what they want in general? I literally like choke whenever I want to ask for something unless I’m specifically told to tell them what I want and even then it comes out as a fucking mumble bc shy n easily flustered .-.

skyrich​(dom male){rottenbrat} • May 29, 2020

Ok,

As for aftercare, the nipple is just skin, no different really from any other place on the body. Treat it the same way you'd treat a bruise and cut elsewhere. And, unless you want that scab to turn into a scar, that nip is off limits until it heals. You don't want scar tissue to form there, trust me on this.

Now, to the meat of the real problem. You MUST learn to speak up. If he doesn't know he's causing damage, then he could *really* hurt you, and that can have all kinds of unpleasant consequences for him and for you. In the United States, (and most other 1st world nations), the State reserves the right to exercise violence. He could be charged with abuse, mayhem and assault with what he's already done to you if a nosy nurse, doctor, or EMT decided to report it. The fact that you like it is not a defense for him, if the DA gets a bug up his/her butt. The consequences for you are infection, permanent damage or even possibly death, especially since he's inexperienced and so are you.

If you can't speak up -- don't get involved in these activities. Plain. And. Simple.

skyrich​(dom male){rottenbrat} • May 30, 2020

The OP asked a question privately of me, and I privately answered her... But, I'm including the meat of the reply here, because it bears public scrutiny.


First off: EVERYTHING is negotiable and re-negotiable when it comes to BDSM. Just because you said "rougher", doesn't mean you can't say: "Ok, that's too rough, back it down a bit." You have that right ALWAYS.

He needs to know where your limits are. Otherwise he'll steam roll over them and crush you in the process. This very nearly happened to me and my wife, because she wouldn't speak up about things.

Trust me, you wont ruin the moment. You are giving him VITAL information. Any dom worth his salt wants that kind of information.


It's not only your right, it's your RESPONSIBILITY to him to speak up.

Seriously, if you can't or won't do that. You need to stop these activities.