How welcomed are FTMs/transmales?

How welcomed are FTMs/transmales?

matousham​(sub trans man){Uncollared} • Jul 13, 2020

Bonjour!

(At least mainstream) porn does not picture a lot of FTMs/transmales BDSM.

In real life I find either binary straights or gays. Either way I am seen as an exotic creature, a one-time adventure.

What does the community think?

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Jul 13, 2020

i would guess the welcome is individual? Which i find unfortunate. To me, people who are different should be among the most open and accepting out there. Many, if not most? of us have experienced the sting of rejection just for being who we are, so it seems to me we should know better than to reject another for similar reasons?

Personally, i have had more than one Victor/Victoria moment with FTM/transmales. i guess like the straight guys who are attracted, unknowingly, to a MTF? i.e., i often am attracted to FTM without realizing they are FTM, because i just see a guy. So it's not a question of "exotic" for me. When i find out the person may not have a cock, it is pretty curious for me, because i am a total bottom. i dated a FTM for awhile, but they didn't fully identify as male, so it didn't work out for us romantically. Also, most of the FTM i have met still have vaginas, though for me, even as a total bottom, that is not an issue if They are Top and still penetrators (for me, "cock" is internal as much, if not more, than physical).

i also have had a reverse experience where i had a crush on one of the doctors i work with. i came back to work one day and they had transitioned MTF.
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Villanelle​(staff) • Jul 14, 2020

We are open to everyone who has a sincere desire to explore their interest in BDSM. We are definitely NOT exclusively M/f. There are plenty of femdoms here (like me), male subs, gay, straight, bi, trans, non-binary, and on and on and on. The more diversity, the better for our community. So in short you are very welcome here!

Bunnie • Jul 14, 2020

“How welcomed are FTMs/transmales?“

Welcome

That is how welcomed!

There is a story I like to carry with me wherever I go in life, and it goes a little like this...

A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.
"What sort of people live in the next town?" asked the stranger.

"What were the people like where you've come from?" replied the farmer, answering the question with another question.

"They were a bad lot. Troublemakers all, and lazy too. The most selfish people in the world, and not a one of them to be trusted. I'm happy to be leaving the scoundrels."

"Is that so?" replied the old farmer. "Well, I'm afraid that you'll find the same sort in the next town.

Disappointed, the traveler trudged on his way, and the farmer returned to his work.

Some time later another stranger, coming from the same direction, hailed the farmer, and they stopped to talk. "What sort of people live in the next town?" he asked.

"What were the people like where you've come from?" replied the farmer once again.

"They were the best people in the world. Hard working, honest, and friendly. I'm sorry to be leaving them."

"Fear not," said the farmer. "You'll find the same sort in the next town.”

My point is... we all have our moments here, much like anywhere. And much like anywhere, this place will be what you make of it.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jul 14, 2020

Anyone with a positive attitude and effect on the community is welcome, they rest can suck it and die.

TalentedOptimist​(dom male){open} • Dec 21, 2020

(At least mainstream) porn does not picture a lot of FTMs/transmales BDSM.

In real life, I find either binary straights or gays. Either way, I am seen as an exotic creature, a one-time adventure.

What does the community think?

Hello, trans people are welcome in every facet of BDSM that I have experienced.

I used to work in adult films. It was a shocking and at times embarrassing set of experiences. Mainstream porn is about making money more so than what people like. There is a large majority of the industry (especially now) associated with the ads, products, celebrities, and themes that go into mainstream porn. It's a brutal process aligned with some of the worst of humanity. Please don't be discouraged by what pornhub dictates about how people feel about trans.

Everyone is exotic if they go to the right place. I'm a black army vet and lived in Germany and Thailand for a while. Women moreso wanted to collect the experience of being with me short term, instead of fully building a dynamic and relationship. Of which both of our transitioning pieces of life would be exposed to one another. The trick to getting out of that is to just cut off the people who make you feel that way. How they talk, eat, treat others, aspire to goals. That all will show you the kind of internal energy one may be dealing with.

From what you wrote specifically. There are many people from all parts of the spectrum on here. Are you now trying to avoid binary straights and gays? I'm not familiar with navigating that entire scene. But I wish you the best.

I'm not speaking for the community, just my own experiences. Most, if not all, people here on the cage that I have seen are open-minded and accepting.