Just how important are words?

Just how important are words?

Bunnie • Aug 25, 2020

Has anyone actively or considered removing words from being such a central aspect of their relationship or dynamic, or simply not had that to begin with (hearing impaired)?

If this is something you’ve considered before, or done... how does it function on a practical level?
Sign language? Gestures? What communication do you use? How about when it comes to play?

We love to talk. Sometimes I think the majority of it is just to hear the sound of our own voices. I’m curious... what would happen if we removed that?

If anyone else is curious, I’d be interested to hear thoughts... hypotheticals, opinions, experience... all are welcome of course.

kajirasubm{On Hiatus } • Aug 25, 2020

Words are power - they have the ability to lift or destroy.

But body language and facial expression is the more subtle and more important aspect.
Watch your partner's breathing, body response.

When people are beginning to fall in love -
they develop the ability to speak without words.
Communicating with their eyes. You both know what the other is thinking.

All of our other senses become heightened when one is lowered.
So perhaps in not overly communicating by speech, we find more amazing pathways to touch one another.

On a totally different thought...
As a New Yorker, just walking down the block - you are reading the body language of everyone around you. It's a heightened awareness which is instinctual for safety and in essence, survival.

House Talion​(dom male) • Aug 25, 2020

Try a black box and words cant escape you

Tthomas • Aug 25, 2020

Words have the ability to cut you or heal you.
If they come from someone that has no connection to you they are less powerful.
If they come from someone you love then power is of the chart either way.

The one flaw I think most everyone has when it comes to communication is that we are so
intent on replying to what someone is saying, We forget that we MUST listen to what they are saying.

My father use to tell me...

You know what you are going to say. You do not know what the other person has to say. Listen and try to learn.

Taramafor​(sub male) • Aug 25, 2020

Words are VERY important. Even two simple words can get results. TELL someone what to do. Instruct. Inform. Orders, basically. Guidance. Stability in unstable moments.

Silence too is VERY important. Maybe I don't feel like talking. Maybe I want to show I can have fun and play even when muting. To be trusted with that. Plus it can be really entertaining being muzzled or gagged and adapt to a situation I'm placed in.

How important are words? They find answers. Logic. Incentive and reasons. Direction. It's sanity. Getting to fun quicker if it's lacking.

How important is silence? Actions speak loudly too. The more you DO the more fun you can have. The more you adapt. The more you learn how to make the best of any situation.

It would be a mistake to overlook either. Or consider either more or less important then the other. I get results with my words. I get results with my actions. Normally both, but there are times I "just show". And others play along. Can't really "do" much with just words, but it can prepare you for when you do take action.

hank submissive male​(sub male) • Aug 25, 2020

I think both words and a non verbal hjybrid is best if we are alone we can use words but if you have been together a longtime you may not have to use words but when out in the vanilla world i think simple gestures can be a way of secretly communicating to your partner such as a tap on the glass signals that the sub must get the dom another refil. That is a fun way of doing it if you have a non speaking rule in your relationshiip then use of signals must be more complex

tallslenderguy​(other male) • Aug 25, 2020

Ooooh Bunnie!!! i love this question.

i especially love the written word, but removed the lid, and it's not 'words' that matter, but communication, connection, what words convey. Words can often get in the way when one is so attached to their understanding or meaning of a word that they cannot see when someone else's may vary.

Some of the more profound connections i have had with others involved little to no words. i think i have written somewhere on the wall of the Cage about a time i was driving down a busy road when a guy pulled up next to me and just glanced over. Our eyes met, He pulled out in front of me. I followed Him to a Burger King restroom where He bred me without us ever saying a word to each other, and intimated just from that brief glance.

i have had similar experiences with few words, especially in the days before online meeting and when being gay was not as socially acceptable. i think so called "gaydar" was really something that developed because we had to live in an unaccepting, and often dangerous, world. i think the eyes and facial expression convey a great deal. Other visual cues like body language.

Breathing. When i am sucking a guys cock, His breathing, sighs, moans, convey volumes.

Another sense i've experimented with is sight. i've had several awesome connections and relationships with guys where i have never seen them. Visual can stimulate, but it can also have bias. i'm not attracted to large bodies. Large cocks can be visual exciting. i had a FB a few years back who i never saw. i'm guessing he weighed somewhere close to 300 pounds and His cock was about 3 inches. i met Him online and He was a Top who needed a bottom to receive Him. He was extremely shy and self conscious about both His physical appearance and the size of His cock and wanted me to be waiting face down, naked and blindfolded, each and every time we connected. i only glanced at Him through a window once, after we had been connecting for awhile. i was always impressed by how He would fuck, straddling my legs and penetrating me in a sitting position. His breathing, touch, just demeanor were most of our language of communication, and i became very fond of Him and would have missed out had the visual figured in to the equation. The experience taught and changed me.