A little bit lost and worried

strictlygentle​(dom male){Queen Alex} • Oct 21, 2020

Somebody already has, and they even acknowledged it:

https://thecage.co/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=3023

It'd probably be good not just for OP, but for everyone in this thread, to add their voices in to point out there is a real problem.

Unfortunately, I've been reliably informed I have no right to an opinion about this, which of course means I can't have a positive one either, so it will just be up to whoever does have that right to advocate for positive changes like this. After all, a cis idiot like me can't possibly understand that this is a problem, so it would be silly of me to speak up.

Anyway, I would encourage everyone else to speak up and convince the site owners to change it. Small wins are still wins and it's important to some people in our community.

UrsaMinora​(sub agender) • Oct 21, 2020

Wow, you see why trans people don't feel they can speak up don't you?
Yeah I'm gonna call you out if you say hurtful things. That's part of being an adult. Turning it around and trying to manipulate me....well what's the point in this discussion any more?


You're right that it would be helpful if those affected spoke up, but why would they when this is the response we get? What's actually needed is the majority, the privileged group, to say actually something needs to change. But that requires an acknowledgement of a problem.

In order for that to happen there needs to be awareness which is why I made this post. I've acknowledged that I haven't handled it as well as I'd have liked because im emotionally invested in the subject, but there we have it

Cage Monkey​(staff) • Oct 21, 2020

We are sorry, everyone. We forgot to fix this embarrassing typo.

It was never intentional and we didn't mean to offend anyone.

I fixed it just now, and we will definitely discuss the other suggestions on the referenced thread to be a welcoming home to all genders and all (well, most) preferences.

strictlygentle​(dom male){Queen Alex} • Oct 21, 2020

Thank you for the fix! Some of my friends will be pleased!

UrsaMinora​(sub agender) • Oct 21, 2020

Really appreciate an effort to make things better. I would very much like to discuss what's happened with the admins if someone could get back to me though

IowaDom​(dom male) • Oct 21, 2020

Nice fix! But ... to one of the OP's other concerns, can you drop the "s" from the forum area "transgenders" ? Perhaps even make it something like "Transgender & Nonbinary" ?

Cage Monkey​(staff) • Oct 21, 2020

@UrsaMinora​ Welcome to the cage, we'll be in touch shortly.

@IowaDom - Sounds good. Fixed.

IowaDom​(dom male) • Oct 21, 2020

Good stuff

Villanelle​(staff) • Oct 21, 2020

@UrsaMinora, I've messaged you. Please get in touch when you can.

Villanelle​(staff) • Oct 21, 2020

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