SubtleHush(sub female)
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3 years ago •
Nov 18, 2020
Bunnie
For me the difference is that when it comes to relationships, it’s all about compatibility (not to be confused with similarity). When I play with someone, yes there does need to be a degree of compatibility in relation to our specific negotiated scene, of course... however, I don’t dive too deeply with someone I am only there to play with. It is still always about connection for me... but not always about intimacy. For me, it’s a matter of compartmentalisation (“immediate” gratification in a way I feel emotionally safe) vs absolute vulnerability and transparency (“long-term” surrender in a way I feel emotionally safe). If I am compartmentalising (play), I see it as much like a business arrangement... all about negotiation. If I am “all-in” (relationship), then it’s about much, much more. The negotiation of course is a part of it... but it’s not the end of it... for even the possibility of a relationship, I require compatibility (again... not to be confused with similarity) before negotiation even becomes a contemplation. .................... You nailed it Bunnie. I couldn't have said it better myself. "Compatibility not to be confused with similarity." (Perfect) |
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