Looking for ideas

Looking for ideas

PrincessTailz{Collared} • Dec 15, 2020

I posted this in another forum as well.

Sir and I have a hotel weekend coming up. Great time to explore TPE to the fullest. I want to spend those 48 hours at his beck and call. No saying no, let him take what he wants, when he wants.

Looking for ideas so I can be the best little sex slave possible. Please?

dollMaker​(dom male) • Dec 15, 2020

'No saying no' Not a good idea.

You always have a right to say no, use a safeword. If anything is too much, crosses or breaks a boundary, limit then please use your safeword. Not to, when you needed to would be a massive mistake. Using a safe word does not make anyone less submissive, a failure or letting the side down. If you need to safe word, you are being responsible for your well being and that of your dom/top/play partner to use it when needed.

To not use it when you needed to will have consequences, both for you and the other person. Trying to cope with and navigate a boundary, limits consent violation is a very upsetting, challenging and potentially destructive experience, and accidental crossing of the line, never mind deliberate can lead to relationships ending and issues on down the line regarding future trust. So dont allow yourself to be sucked into thinking that you should not say no when you need to.

BDSM is like playing with fire, and doing so safely requires, good, safe practice, fully negotiated scenes, all parties knowing exactly what they can do, when, and how, being capable of doing so safely, having the skills and knowledge and using safe words when needed.

I hope you have a fun experience but be careful, particularly if this is your first time doing this.

PrincessTailz{Collared} • Dec 15, 2020

I guess I should have been more forthright. Apologies for that...

Sir and I have been together for several years. We know each other's hard limits and where the line is drawn. It isn't the first time we've done this, but it isn't often we have a full 2 nights without the kids (15 and 11).

Sorry, I really should have clarified there. I can see the red flag in my wording.

We do use a safe word system, and he will immediately stop if I say it.

SubtleHush​(sub female) • Dec 15, 2020

Let him choose everything you pack
Or, let him buy you some new outfits (lingerie, leather whatever) without you being there. And you don't see them until you arrive.
Revisit behaviors or activities he enjoys more than you and let him choose.

dollMaker​(dom male) • Dec 15, 2020

Nods, fair enough. I hope you both have a great time.

MountaintopMaster • Dec 15, 2020

For me, one of the best things about a "TPE weekend" isn't just being in total control, but also knowing that my sub is so damn horny the entire time, they can't help themselves. So, unless you plan on just not sleeping the entire time, waking up and having your morning wood being climbed on top of is one of the hottest things ever. As long as you have the leeway with your Dom to do such a thing without their permission, or you ask for permission beforehand. Maybe some would see that as not D/s at all, just a really horny vanilla couple, but for me it's as simple as telling my sub what I like, and letting them take action to please me. Plus, if you're into orgasm control, it can be a cute little rebellious moment of, "What are you doing, girl?" "You got hard in your sleep and I didn't want it to go to waste!" "You weren't trying to sneak in an orgasm without Daddy's permission, were you?" "Noooo I swear!"