What's a girl gotta do...

What's a girl gotta do...

MeekMarionette​(sub female){Not collar} • Jan 23, 2021

To meet a dom. To meet a man that is a true alpha. That's not afraid to be aggressive without being abusive. That's not afraid of taking control without letting me live my life. That's not afraid of PDA without feeling like he's being emasculated. That's not afraid of sharing his thoughts and feelings without feeling like it makes him a pussy.

Maybe I'm just a novel looking for a nonexistent knight in matte black armor.

CinderellaOnTheRun​(sub female){protected} • Jan 23, 2021

Finding you person is a long journey that often brings with it frustration. Trial and error is part of it! Believe me, you are definitely not by yourself. Lots of Doms and subs are still on the hunt for that perfect someone that is made just for them. Become your best version, expand your horizons and explore all aspects of life. Chasing often leads to emptiness and sometimes we just have to take a break, regroup and, get back on the search.

I know it is frustrating to hear the same thing constantly such as "stop looking and they will come" or "be happy with yourself first" bla, bla.. Although true, these are words we know very well by now. So do not give up, keep looking (safely, do not fall into a sub frenzy), attend munches, make friends in the lifestyle, attend courses. He is out there and waiting, I truly believe that.

Do not give up ever! You got this and your journey is not a lonely one believe me <3
~C

MeekMarionette​(sub female){Not collar} • Jan 23, 2021

How would one find courses to attend

CinderellaOnTheRun​(sub female){protected} • Jan 23, 2021

Hmm, Fetlife although has some negatives it actually contains a useful tab for events near your town. It varies from virtual due to the pandemic and also to in real life once Rona is safer.

Also, there are some useful websites such as http://findamunch.com/

Also, the BDSM page on Reddit is extremely helpful as well.

Hope that helps

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 23, 2021

You just have to he inactive member of the community. Munches were a thing before covid, but I'm sure you can find some ppl doing online group video chat. Fetlife was a bad apple before craigslist personals went down and now is worse, but its possible to find a good group there and see what they have to offer. Honestly here is probably the beatbplace for most ppl

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} • Jan 24, 2021

Not every Dom is this when they start. And every Dom you see that is this, is with someone. Why?

Because they were not the person you see when they were single. They were a work in progress. They became who they were with training. Same as a submissive. They had a demeanor that they needed to fine tune. You can only do that with someone supportive of who you want to be, someone who goes through the trial and error with you and helps you grow into the fierce, sexy, alpha male that you can be. Without someone seeing that value in you, can you really claim to be any of these things?

That is why you never see these people in the "single" world... not because they get "snatched up" by the lucky girls... it is because those girls put in the time on their knees to help them become their perfect guardians.