Punishments

Tthomas • Mar 31, 2021

When I have to punish a submissive I try to let the punishment fit the crime so to speak.

If she embarrasses me then I will embarrass her or better yet let her embarrass herself.
Like making her pee in her jeans in public.

Try to think of something that will make you feel the way he did when you disobeyed.

Monsieur Baltimore​(dom male) • Apr 4, 2021

The silent punishment is often a good obe on disobedient slave/sub.
I just stop talking to My s, I do not look at her anymore, I just act as she was not there... as it is clear she has not been worthy of her collar. The complete absence of attention from M is something very hard on My s .... Good punishment when she deserve it...

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Apr 4, 2021

@M,

Unless your S suffers from abandonment trauma, then it's just reinstalling abuse issues.

For me, it would be a hard limit.

Dominus eius​(dom male){LittleLott} • Apr 4, 2021

I’ll concur with the punishment being targeted to your dynamic - as someone has said, giving a caning to a masochist won’t work.

That said, if you’re looking for inspiration. The most recent one I used:

My sub was restrained, with her hands behind her back and instructed to kneel at my side. While I then watched porn and masturbated - all the time she had to watch but not touch. I didn’t even give her the satisfaction of my cum - that went into a tissue and the bin.

This was in response to her showing a lack of respect and deference - something that is agreed between us.

She told me it felt horrible and certainly felt like a punishment.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Apr 4, 2021

@DE,

And did she explain why it felt horrible to her? I know how *I* would have felt but I'm not her.

Dominus eius​(dom male){LittleLott} • Apr 4, 2021

@SBD,

Yes she did - those discussions are important.

It was the fact that she wasn’t able to be involved in giving me any pleasure - I actually had a good idea this would be the case. That being denied playing with me would be far more impactful than being denied her own pleasure.

Is that similar to how you would feel?

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Apr 4, 2021

@DE,

No, it is not but I have issues surrounding abandonment and rejection so for ME, the punishment you described would not be suitable as it would trigger feelings of being "second best".

Having my partner turn to another, even a porn star, would impact me on a deeper level than just "your BEHAVIOR was unacceptable. Don't do it again.".

For me, it would say, "YOU are unacceptable. I would rather choose someone ELSE than choose you.".

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Apr 4, 2021

Thank you for sharing her perspective with me though. It's appreciated.

Lindsey Ciccino​(sub female){Collared} • Apr 4, 2021

This is a difficult issue because punishments should always be unique to the person, circumstance and be directly related to the infraction. Maybe the punishment in itself is that you are reflecting on your behavior and the infraction itself. Knowing why and how it happened and then coming up with a solution to make sure it does not happen again. The point of a punishment is to correct the behavior to ensure that it is avoided in the future.

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dom daddie​(dom male) • Apr 8, 2021

tie you up and have you crawling on the cold floor.